Online Dating Guide & Blog

I remember reading about devices in Japan that would alert you when you are near another single person who also had one of these devices. I read about this years and years ago (probably when I first started dating online in 2004) so I can’t remember all the details but I seem to remember that it was a totally separate device, not something that was a part of your cell phone. I also think there was some “hunting for each [...]

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What is the difference between eHarmony and Chemistry.com? Is eHarmony better than Chemistry.com?

While the two services appear very similar, I will discuss what I consider the biggest difference between them. Then I’ll discuss some additional feature differences and why in some cases one of the two services may serve you better than the other.

Before I start, if you are brand-new to online dating or are not familiar with either of these services at all, I would recommend you read [...]

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You may find yourself dating online when you receive contact from someone you might label as a “geek”. Now, before you write this person off as not worth dating I think you should consider what geeks bring to a relationship. As I’ll be discussing in this article, while geeks fail to bring the social status important to many people, what they offer in replace of that makes them well worth your consideration.

None of the reasons I will be discussing are [...]

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In this one phrase, “How to seduce a woman”, I believe many men are led down the wrong path when looking for companionship. I am convinced this is a very disappointing statement for anyone who has found their way here looking to have this question answered. However, I would ask that you give me just a few minutes of your time to explain my case before you insist on continuing your quest to have this secret revealed. Allow me to [...]

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This article asks the question: Can Twitter replace online dating sites? My first thought to this prior to reading the article was: weren’t people asking this same question about MySpace a few years ago? As I had mentioned back then, people also meet in grocery stores but that doesn’t mean grocery stores are going to replace bars, clubs or singles events. And so my first thought to this question was a resounding “No”.

However, after reading the article I’ll say that [...]

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This is the second part of my discussion regarding online dating advice. You can find more of my thoughts behind this in the first post, on why some dating advice can be more harmful than helpful.

1. Easy Answers
In many cases there is no easy answer. The people who are selling easy answers often believe the answers are easy…even though they’re not. Their personal experience of having an easy time with a problem gives them a very wrong impression of how [...]

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There is a lot of dating advice out there and much of it tries to make your dating problems sound as if they are the easiest thing to solve in the world. Recently I was shown a video of a very handsome man giving dating advice on how everyone should just “get over” rejection. By looking at him it became clear that he had done most of the rejecting in his dating life (he made comments that further strengthened this [...]

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With the release of the iPad today, I thought I would write about how much I love the Kindle 2. Everywhere I go online today I see the majority of people blogging or twittering about how the Kindle has all but been replaced. Really, any time Apple releases a new product the hype can get pretty crazy (and with a track-record like theirs it’s no surprise).

Now that I’ve seen the iPad, I suspect that Amazon’s first thought on seeing [...]

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In my last post, I discussed ways to break your way into the conversation even if your date doesn’t ask you any questions. Today, I wanted to discuss this same issue but from the other side: remembering to share the conversation.

Sometimes people are simply too excited on a date and the result is that they talk about themselves the entire night. Another thing that happens with online dating is some people, particularly men, will research ways to keep the conversation [...]

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Recently I’ve been writing about how niche dating sites can offer more success than the big dating sites simply because the service has already narrowed down its members to those with the single quality most important to you. Because I’ve been offering this advice, I wanted to review some niche sites and I’m starting with CatholicMatch.com.

Look and Feel
My first impression when visiting the site was the beautiful photography on the site, mostly of churches, weddings or couples together. Many niche [...]

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Many people I speak with about dating have what I consider to be the standard outlook in regards to online dating: that it is a necessary evil. This approach is one that says online dating is something that must be done. A means to an end and nothing more. I started dating with this mentality and I think this approach is what adds so much frustration to the process.

This approach says that every date is either a failure or success. [...]

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I was discussing online dating with a friend recently and she explained how she has twice ended an online dating relationship with men due to the fact that they didn’t even offer to pay for her on the first date. These dates weren’t anything expensive either, just coffee. These men had also established that they had well paying jobs. I’m surprised that this happened to her twice in a few months so I think this topic is worth covering.

Guys, the [...]

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Over at SingleCityGuy.com, there’s a discussion of how women give their female friends awful advice regarding men. I’m not sure that this is a universal problem but I have seen exactly what he’s talking about. I’ve been absolutely flabbergasted by some suggestions women have made when debating dating situations regarding men. The problem, as the article points out, is that women are over-thinking how much thought we’re putting into our decisions.

A recent movie, He’s Just Not That Into You [...]

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With some extra time over the holiday, I was looking for a new game to play and decided to look into Torchlight. My first impression when researching the game and looking at the screenshots was that it appeared to be a more cartoonish Diablo. Having now played for a few hours, I can say that this impression is correct.

As with my experience with the Diablo series, Torchlight offers a lot of fun with single player dungeon crawling. The first few [...]

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Some people think about dating online but put it off because they want to improve something about themselves before they start. I don’t have any statistics but I think it’s safe to assume the number one reason for this is to attempt to lose weight. Do I believe this is a good idea? Should a person lose weight before subjecting themselves to online dating?

In my opinion, the answer is no (with one small exception). Why is waiting a mistake?

First, going [...]

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A Wired article discusses a New York Times article that discusses one professor’s call to ban the words geek and nerd. From the article at NYT:

But David Anderegg, a professor of psychology at Bennington College, says that merely mentioning terms like nerd or geek serves to perpetuate the stereotype. The words are damaging, much like racial epithets, he says, and should be avoided.

This blows my mind because, as both a geek and a nerd, I have to say that these [...]

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You’ll see people complain about how bad their online dates have been. One great site for stories regarding this is Internet Dating Stories (I love the tag line: “The good, the bad, and the OH MY GOD, what were they thinking?!”). Obviously after browsing this site you’ll see there are plenty of bad dates out there originating from the internet. I’ve heard men and women describe bad dates and attribute the entirety of those bad dates to online dating itself. [...]

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Don’t do this! I was talking about online dating experiences the other day and woman was describing her most recent date. She was explaining why she had no intention of having another date with the man she had met the night before. There were several issues she had taken with the date itself but as we talked I get the feeling this man had ruined his chances in the first few moments of the date. Simply said, he was dressed [...]

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Some Dating Email Dos And Don’ts
Quick tips on CNN provided by the site TheFrisky.com for sending emails and overall I found the advice good. In some ways I was surprised as I find myself shaking my head more often than not when the main stream media dives into the dating advice business. Maybe it made sense since someone else wrote it (although I’m not actually familiar with TheFrisky.com). I will say that number 5, which says you should wait at [...]

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Yesterday I discussed why the free online dating services have such problems: men who send massive amounts of spam searching for a woman willing to have sex. The services could cancel these men’s accounts but that really accomplishes nothing – they’ll just open another. It would appear that these free services will simply have to accept being plagued with the spammers…right?

I think not. I believe that these free services could implement a system that would remove all of these problems [...]

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