Posted on July 10th, 2011 by Brad
A reader writes in that she was have some success with initial contacts but was struggling when moving beyond that:
Please address the SECOND email you send. I just began using Match.com and get lots of winks and have had a few first emails. But when they respond, their answers are short and not too informative or don’t seem to offer much to move things forward. More like “what do you want to know” when I haven’t asked the questions along [...]
Filed under: dating advice
Posted on July 5th, 2011 by Brad
From time to time I am contacted by people who are uncomfortable posting their photo for public viewing on a dating site. This is almost always related to their job: professors, teachers, or professionals with a strong presence online are examples that I have run into.
Filed under: online dating services
Posted on June 5th, 2011 by Brad
From time to time I see online dating safety advice offering this as a suggestion: bring a friend with you on a first date.
I understand the need to be safe but I really dislike this suggestion. Mostly because I had a woman bring a friend on a first date with me and it really hurt the odds of having another date (there wasn’t one). Admittedly, I found her approach as annoying as her actions…so I guess a full story is [...]
Filed under: personal experience
Posted on May 26th, 2011 by Brad
At times online dating can be difficult or at the very least frustrating. Many of us come to a point where we feel like we’re just not getting enough opportunity with the dating service we are using and begin to wonder about trying multiple dating services at once. Is this a good idea?
Filed under: online dating services
Posted on May 5th, 2011 by Brad
I was reviewing some of my old articles from when I first started this site back in 2007 and decided to bring up some of the “forgotten” articles.
In this case I wanted to talk about a belief that many people hold true that can hurt their online dating experience: limiting themselves to dating a single person at a time.
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Filed under: dating advice
Posted on March 12th, 2011 by Brad
How do you know when you’ve met someone special? How do you know when it is time to stop meeting others? These are two questions I get with some regularity from my readers. In this article I want to talk about some of the signs to look for when considering if you should pursue one person exclusively.
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Posted on March 5th, 2011 by Brad
Photo by WonderlaneMost of the time people don’t look to start long-distance relationships with online dating. However, for some of us there are reasons that we begin to consider long-distance as our best option. Reasons such as living in a low population area or having particular requirements in the person we would like to date that would make it unlikely to find them near-by.
Filed under: dating advice
Posted on March 2nd, 2011 by Brad
With online dating, the rules for dating are sometimes similar to the old-style of dating but in many cases the rules that people operate under are very different. One area of difference occurs when someone loses interest. Below is a question I received from a reader recently:
Thanks so much for your kind words of encouragement! I have a question and maybe I know the answer but sometimes it’s helpful to hear it from others. I had been communicating with a [...]
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Posted on February 27th, 2011 by Brad
When dating online you may find yourself asking: Why did he stop responding? Did I scare her off? Did I say something wrong?
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These are some of the most popular questions I receive from readers, both men and women. They will often send me their email communications to try to help identify where things went wrong…or if they went wrong at all. I want to offer some advice to any readers out there who might have these same [...]
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Posted on February 23rd, 2011 by Brad
The traditional approach to dating, where men initiate much of the communication, can be a blessing and a curse. When the number of contacts being received is high, a woman has little need to search out the guys she wants to contact. However, when the contacts are low many women are presented with a significant problem (especially the women who prefer for men to initiate the communication).
Filed under: dating profiles
Posted on February 18th, 2011 by Brad
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From time to time I get emails from readers who have been incorrectly charged from an online dating service. This generally occurs in one of two ways:
The person never subscribed to the service and is totally caught off guard by the charge. In most cases this is some type of fraudulent charge (for example, someone stealing the credit card number) but in one instance someone contacted me because someone she knew had used her credit card to sign [...]
Filed under: online dating guide
Posted on February 8th, 2011 by Mary
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Online dating is designed to be a safe environment for meeting that “potential” person you are looking for. Yet oftentimes when dating online people forget to look for the “Red Flags”. There are always red flags that we should be looking for in the first or second email.
Too many people do not listen to the warning signs or their intuition. This often leads to hardship, hurt feelings, financial loss, or worse. There are many obvious red flags [...]
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Brad is a happily married man that found great success (and his wife!) using online dating. He now shares his thoughts and experiences, on this site and in his free online dating guide, to assist others in finding success. 
