Online Dating Guide & Blog

Over the last few years, I’ve answered many online dating questions. In this post, I’m going to keep a collection of my favorite posts among them. If you have an online dating question that I’ve not answered at this site please feel free to contact me.

If you’re looking for good first date questions, check out this article instead: First Date Questions

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This post will be a guide to eHarmony. It is the second post in a three-part series where I’m going to discuss in detail using Match.com (see my previous article), eHarmony, and finally I will compare these services to determine which is the “better” of the two. In this article, I’ll be describing eHarmony from the ground up.

For a broader conversation on this dating service, see my eHarmony Review post.

Thoughts on the eHarmony Profile

eHarmony is known for its long sign-up [...]

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In this three-part series, I’m going to discuss in detail Match.com, eHarmony, and finally I will compare these services to determine which is the “better” of the two. In this article, I’ll be describing Match.com from the ground up.

Does Match.com Work?

I won’t spend too much time on this question mostly because I’m biased: I met my wife using Match.com. I understand if you’re having reservations about giving the service a try (I had the same reservations myself). But I can [...]

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Online dating most often requires a great deal of patience. My wife met me on her first date using Match.com but she is absolutely the exception, not the rule. That normally doesn’t happen. What normally happens is we sign up for online dating and assume that because we are surrounded by singles that meeting someone will only take a day or two.

Unfortunately, that’s normally just not the case. Sometimes finding a date at all is frustrating and other times finding [...]

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In my last post I covered questions on winks at Match.com. This time I wanted to cover other types of questions that have sent people here.

How Do I Hide My Profile on Match.com?
What Happens When I Hide My Profile?
Can I Hide My Match.com Profile but Still Quality for Guarantee?
How Do i Contact Non-Paying Members on Match.com?
What Does a Green Highlighted Profile on Match.com Mean?
How Can I Tell Who the Paying Members Are?
How Much will the Match.com Six Month Guarantee [...]

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Recently I’ve received quite a few questions from women on winks so I wanted to take the time to answer a few of those questions here. I’ve discussed my thoughts on winks in great detail but I wanted to cover these specific questions as well. I would recommend you read that article first as I cover the dynamics of winking in detail there. On to the questions:

Should I Wink at a Guy I Find Attractive?

My opinion on this one is [...]

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Strangely enough, this situation seems to happen more often than I would expect: after finding a serious relationship some men still keep their online dating profile active. The explanations for this are pretty weak but these men always make the argument that there’s some good reason to keep their profile active.

If you’re a woman who has found herself in this situation, I think you have a problem on your hands. It may not mean he’s cheating but I do think [...]

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In my last post, I discussed ways to break your way into the conversation even if your date doesn’t ask you any questions. Today, I wanted to discuss this same issue but from the other side: remembering to share the conversation.

Sometimes people are simply too excited on a date and the result is that they talk about themselves the entire night. Another thing that happens with online dating is some people, particularly men, will research ways to keep the conversation [...]

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Is silence a form of rejection with dating online? If you email a woman and she doesn’t respond, is she not interested? Sadly, yes, silence is rejection when you are dating online. Actually, silence is a pretty bad sign regardless of whether you’re using an online dating site or a more traditional method.

The standard dilemma with online dating is the question: is it better to email someone back and reject them forcefully or just remain silent and allow them [...]

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Before discussing some good questions to ask on a first date, I wanted to offer several tips on first date conversations in general.

First, you should ask your questions with a purpose. Specifically, you should be trying to determine if this is someone you would like to continue to spend time with. Don’t just find a bunch of questions on the internet to ask just so you can “fill the silence”. While I will provide [...]

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Is it better to ignore unwanted contact or come right out and tell someone that you’re not interested? I’ve had this question asked a few times…always by women but I assume some men find themselves asking this question as well. On one hand, simply ignoring people is generally considered rude but on the other explicitly rejecting someone isn’t something most people like to do. For many of us, especially early on in our online dating, this creates something of a [...]

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My last article talked about an offer from Match.com where you could get six months free after paying for six months (although there are more than a few hoops to jump through to earn those free months).

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At any rate, the very fact that you have to pay for six months up-front got me thinking about how most online dating services offer different time frames for signing up. Many people may wonder how long they should be signing-up [...]

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