Posted on August 31st, 2010 by Brad
Is eHarmony free? This question comes up from time to time and the short answer is: no, eHarmony is not free (see this post for cost information).
Parts of the service are free and there are also free events that the service has from time to time. These two areas can confuse first time users about eHarmony so I’ll explain each of them and what exactly is free about eHarmony.
What Parts of eHarmony Are Free?
eHarmony is an online dating service [...]
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Posted on July 4th, 2010 by Brad
A reader recently wrote in to ask about dating conversations where the person you are talking with responds but with little or no apparent interest:
If you are conversing with someone via email (regardless of who initiates the conversation) and you respond with a short paragraph and question and they always responds with one or two sentences, does this mean that they are really not interested. If asked a question I answer the question plus give some background and ask another [...]
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Posted on June 1st, 2010 by Brad
Through this blog, from time to time I find myself reviewing profiles. One of the most common problems I see is the tendency for people to share a little too much, a little too fast. Often the extra details are confusing but other times they are damaging. In either case, the profile isn’t strengthened by it. I wanted to briefly discuss the idea of intentionally being aware of what you are revealing about yourself in your dating profile.
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Posted on May 4th, 2010 by Brad
Recently I was talking with a woman who was looking for an online dating service but she had a strange requirement: she wanted a service where non-paying members would not be able to see her photo. As I told her, the only site I am aware of that hides photos from non-paying members is eHarmony.
Most Services Do Not Like Hiding Photos
Many dating services do not want to have photos hidden because these photos can convince other singles to sign up. [...]
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Posted on April 10th, 2010 by Brad
Over the last few years, I’ve answered many online dating questions. In this post, I’m going to keep a collection of my favorite posts among them. If you have an online dating question that I’ve not answered at this site please feel free to contact me.
If you’re looking for good first date questions, check out this article instead: First Date Questions
Online Dating Questions:
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Posted on March 25th, 2010 by Brad
This post will be a guide to eHarmony. It is the second post in a three-part series where I’m going to discuss in detail using Match.com, eHarmony, and finally I will compare these services to determine which is the “better” of the two. In this article, I’ll be describing eHarmony from the ground up.
Thoughts on the eHarmony Profile
eHarmony is known for its long sign-up time but that’s part of the service. The long sign-up process is based on determining your [...]
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Posted on March 23rd, 2010 by Brad
In this three-part series, I’m going to discuss in detail Match.com, eHarmony, and finally I will compare these services to determine which is the “better” of the two. In this article, I’ll be describing Match.com from the ground up.
Creating Your Profile at Match.com
When you visit Match.com, you’ll be presented with a form to search for singles where you can enter simple details, such as if you are a man looking for a woman, etc. This is actually part of the [...]
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Posted on March 17th, 2010 by Brad
Online dating most often requires a great deal of patience. My wife met me on her first date using Match.com but she is absolutely the exception, not the rule. That normally doesn’t happen. What normally happens is we sign up for online dating and assume that because we are surrounded by singles that meeting someone will only take a day or two.
Unfortunately, that’s normally just not the case. Sometimes finding a date at all is frustrating and other times finding [...]
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Posted on March 6th, 2010 by Brad
In my last post I covered questions on winks at Match.com. This time I wanted to cover other types of questions that have sent people here.
How Do I Hide My Profile on Match.com?
What Happens When I Hide My Profile?
Can I Hide My Match.com Profile but Still Quality for Guarantee?
How Do i Contact Non-Paying Members on Match.com?
What Does a Green Highlighted Profile on Match.com Mean?
How Can I Tell Who the Paying Members Are?
How Much will the Match.com Six Month Guarantee [...]
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Posted on March 5th, 2010 by Brad
Recently I’ve received quite a few questions from women on winks so I wanted to take the time to answer a few of those questions here. I’ve discussed my thoughts on winks in great detail but I wanted to cover these specific questions as well. I would recommend you read that article first as I cover the dynamics of winking in detail there. On to the questions:
Should I Wink at a Guy I Find Attractive?
My opinion on this one is [...]
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Posted on February 4th, 2010 by Brad
Strangely enough, this situation seems to happen more often than I would expect: after finding a serious relationship some men still keep their online dating profile active. The explanations for this are pretty weak but these men always make the argument that there’s some good reason to keep their profile active.
If you’re a woman who has found herself in this situation, I think you have a problem on your hands. It may not mean he’s cheating but I do think [...]
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Posted on January 20th, 2010 by Brad
In my last post, I discussed ways to break your way into the conversation even if your date doesn’t ask you any questions. Today, I wanted to discuss this same issue but from the other side: remembering to share the conversation.
Sometimes people are simply too excited on a date and the result is that they talk about themselves the entire night. Another thing that happens with online dating is some people, particularly men, will research ways to keep the conversation [...]
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Posted on January 10th, 2010 by Brad
Is silence a form of rejection with dating online? If you email a woman and she doesn’t respond, is she not interested? Sadly, yes, silence is rejection when you are dating online. Actually, silence is a pretty bad sign regardless of whether you’re using an online dating site or a more traditional method.
The standard dilemma with online dating is the question: is it better to email someone back and reject them forcefully or just remain silent and allow them [...]
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Posted on December 3rd, 2009 by Brad
Before discussing some good questions to ask on a first date, I wanted to offer several tips on first date conversations in general.
First, you should ask your questions with a purpose. Specifically, you should be trying to determine if this is someone you would like to continue to spend time with. Don’t just find a bunch of questions on the internet to ask just so you can “fill the silence”. While I will provide examples it’s best if you [...]
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Posted on October 11th, 2009 by Brad
Is it better to ignore unwanted contact or come right out and tell someone that you’re not interested? I’ve had this question asked a few times…always by women but I assume some men find themselves asking this question as well. On one hand, simply ignoring people is generally considered rude but on the other explicitly rejecting someone isn’t something most people like to do. For many of us, especially early on in our online dating, this creates something of a [...]
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Posted on February 19th, 2008 by Brad
My last article talked about an offer from Match.com where you could get six months free after paying for six months (although there are more than a few hoops to jump through to earn those free months). At any rate, the very fact that you have to pay for six months up-front got me thinking about how most online dating services offer different time frames for signing up. Many people may wonder how long they should be signing-up for, especially [...]
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Posted on January 8th, 2008 by Brad
One of the local newspapers here in Pittsburgh has an advice column which I discovered today. I’m not a fan of these columns because, in most cases, the columnists answer questions as if everything is overly simple. They also come off as overly-confident to me; as if no detail they are unaware of could possibly affect what good advice might consist of. I suppose, though, if you offer advice for a living then it is actually your job to [...]
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Posted on January 3rd, 2008 by Brad
Recently I started offering dating advice through Yahoo! Answers. If you’re not familiar with Yahoo! Answers, it is a community where you earn points by answering questions and spend points to ask questions. The questions can be anything at all. There are plenty of people asking online dating questions so I check it out every now and again. It’s been interesting seeing what people are curious about and I’ve even been able to help a few people out.
By far, the [...]
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Brad is a happily married man that found great success (and his wife!) using online dating. He now shares his thoughts and experiences, on this site and in his free online dating guide, to assist others in finding success. 
