Posted on August 15th, 2010 by Brad
I remember reading about devices in Japan that would alert you when you are near another single person who also had one of these devices. I read about this years and years ago (probably when I first started dating online in 2004) so I can’t remember all the details but I seem to remember that it was a totally separate device, not something that was a part of your cell phone. I also think there was some “hunting for each [...]
Filed under: online dating services
Posted on April 12th, 2010 by Brad
An article at MSNBC lists some of the most common online datings scams that are successful. Online dating is right at the top of that list. Many of use want to believe we’ve found love so badly that we’ll believe anything. I thought this article was great, right from the beginning:
Most people think they’ll never fall for a scam. In fact, that frame of mind is precisely what con artists look for. Those who believe that they know better are [...]
Filed under: dating advice
Posted on March 2nd, 2010 by Brad
I’m really learning to love OKCupid more every day. As I’ve written here in the past, it is my recommended free dating service. Aside from offering a great free dating option, they’re the only service that offers substantial statistics on the dating habits of their members.
In some ways I believe these statistics aren’t going to tell the whole story as I believe the type of clientele will differ from service to service. As an example, this article I’m about [...]
Filed under: dating articles
Posted on February 18th, 2010 by Brad
Little White Profile Lies
This Washington Post article discusses some of the most common lies in dating profiles: height and weight. It also states that 8 out of 10 profiles have some type of lie in it. When I was dating online I had plenty of first dates but only one where the woman I met had blatantly lied about her appearance…so if 80% of people are lying I think most of those lies must be pretty small, at least based [...]
Filed under: dating articles, dating links
Posted on January 15th, 2010 by Brad
On this blog I devote most of my attention to online dating but this isn’t the only method of meeting people. Just because you start dating online doesn’t mean you should forget about all the other options out there. Here’s a list of some ideas for meeting people when you’re not on your favorite dating site:
Meet-up Groups
I often recommend that people try Meetup.com as it has people of all types and ages meeting up for nearly limitless reasons. If you [...]
Filed under: dating advice
Posted on January 4th, 2010 by Brad
If you’re a man and you’ve ever been frustrated by the fact that you fall apart socially around beautiful women, it’s not just you. According to a study discussed in the Telegraph, studies have shown that men actually do lose much of their ability to think and reason when around pretty women:
The research shows men who spend even a few minutes in the company of an attractive woman perform less well in tests designed to measure brain function than those [...]
Filed under: dating articles
Posted on January 3rd, 2010 by Brad
The Spam Scam
In my series on online dating scams and liars, I discussed a theory that sometime accounts are created simply to get personal information from other members and then spam them. According to this article, it looks like my theory might not be far from the truth. In this case, it was actually employees of the dating service that were using profile data for spam.
Woman-Speak Translation Tips
CityGirlsWorld offers some translation tips for what women are saying and what they [...]
Filed under: online dating news
Posted on December 21st, 2009 by Brad
6 Technology Steps to Take During A Post-Breakup
Due to social media changes, breaking up today is even more difficult than it once was. Our lives can become so intertwined with those we date that when things are broken off only half of the breakup is truly complete. This YourTango article discusses some steps (arguably obvious in some cases) for cleansing your online ties in addition to your emotional.
Bad First Date, Funny Article
The author of this article describes getting the “stare [...]
Filed under: online dating news
Posted on December 20th, 2009 by Brad
I’m always looking for new, interesting, well-written dating articles to share with my readers. I’ll let you in on a little secret: the internet is full of crap. For every good article I find, there’s a dozen other sites that offer absolutely nothing. Almost all of these sites are intentionally bad in the sense that the goal is not to assist readers in any way. Apparently the authors of much of this drivel are very good at marketing their sites [...]
Filed under: dating links
Posted on December 17th, 2009 by Brad
According to the Telegraph, scientists have declared that men should marry women who are younger and smarter than themselves. The article is a little short on the details but I did find another article stating that men who marry younger women live longer.
While I find articles like this interesting, it always seems like a new group of scientists is coming out with a new metric that will determine the success of a relationship. Finding someone you click with is often [...]
Filed under: dating articles
Posted on September 8th, 2009 by Brad
When I started dating online, I would drag my feet before meeting a woman. I wanted to make sure she was exactly what I was looking for before we met. Whenever I did finally meet someone I would almost always find out within the first few minutes of talking that she wasn’t the match I believed her to be. My first dates were stressful, disappointing, few and far-between. In the second phase of my online dating life (the [...]
Filed under: dating articles
Posted on August 9th, 2009 by Brad
I’ve not had much to say lately…and by lately I mean for the last year or so. I always had a vision for my site: share what I had learned from online dating with others. Once I had posted all the concrete examples I had to share I found myself looking for excuses to post (and I don’t feel like these posts were all that helpful). Eventually I decided to stop posting, allowing to let the site continue on as-is. [...]
Filed under: dating advice, dating links, online dating guide
Posted on February 3rd, 2008 by Brad
Things have been busy around here lately but here’s a quick link to a short article in USA Weekend with 5 Tips for Online Dating. I like the fourth tip the best and don’t really agree with the fifth (I avoided phone conversations after one woman wouldn’t stop contacting me). Still, these tips are a good start if thinking about joining the online dating world.
You might also be interested in reading:
5 Online Daters to Avoid
Profile Views vs. Actual Interest
What Makes [...]
Filed under: dating articles
Posted on January 21st, 2008 by Brad
In a recent post, as well as in my guide, I argue that it is a good thing to date as many people as possible. A very interesting article at 40s Singleness takes exception with this advice. The author, one Lisa Q, challenges this idea with some questions that point out that simply dating for quantity can be, at best, just a waste of time or, at worst, simply dishonest. If you have a few minutes I’d recommend you read [...]
Filed under: dating advice, dating articles
Posted on January 19th, 2008 by Brad
Here are two articles that are helpful for finding dates outside of online dating:
For the guys: 6 Ways to Ask Her Out
For the ladies: Help Him Ask You Out!
While I separated those articles based on who they were written for, I found the article for women more interesting. The advice for the guys is good but its not horribly different from other advice I’ve seen on the same topic. I am admittedly thick when it comes to picking up [...]
Filed under: dating advice, dating articles
Posted on November 17th, 2007 by Brad
Since I started this site a few months ago, I’ve been actively looking for great resources that I could share here. Unfortunately, almost everything I have found online has fallen into one of three categories:
Overly general advice that feels extremely polished and impersonal. For example, the type of advice I would expect to see in a Maxim magazine (but less humorous). I find it hard to put much confidence into something that reads as if a team of writers tried [...]
Filed under: dating advice, dating articles, dating links
Posted on November 9th, 2007 by Brad
Recently I was reading a TechCrunch article about the online dating services that are taking a different approach. There were two dating sites listed in the article that I was familiar with: Engage.com and GreatBoyFriends.com.
I had read about Engage.com a few weeks ago and was interested by the idea. The service provides what might be called traditional online dating with additional twists to make the site more of a community. In particular, people can use the site for free as [...]
Filed under: dating articles, online dating services
Posted on November 2nd, 2007 by Brad
I really loved this article on online daters to avoid. I only wish I would have read it before I had started online dating. Give this a read: I really believe it can help people avoid making some mistakes. I just cannot say enough good things about this article because I experienced so much of what it talks about.
One thing I would like to add to the article: make sure you don’t become one of these “five daters to avoid”. [...]
Filed under: dating advice
Posted on October 19th, 2007 by Brad
I am always hesitant to give women advice for online dating. Primarily, this is based on conversations I had with dates during my internet dating days. One great conversation starter was to simply talk about the online experience itself. These conversations revealed how very different a woman’s experiences were from mine, although many were similar to one another. While I would compare my experience to searching for that needle in the haystack, these women had experiences more comparable to trudging [...]
Filed under: dating advice, dating articles, dating links
Posted on October 12th, 2007 by Brad
Statistics are like bikinis. What they reveal is suggestive, but what they conceal is vital. ~Aaron Levenstein
From time to time, articles are published on the best and worst cities to live in if you are single or, maybe more specifically, dating. This year, of the top forty cities measured, my city, Pittsburgh, came in near the very bottom of the list. This is actually an improvement – I know Pittsburgh was dead-last two years in a row a [...]
Filed under: dating articles, online dating news
Brad is a happily married man that found great success (and his wife!) using online dating. He now shares his thoughts and experiences, on this site and in his free online dating guide, to assist others in finding success. 
