Posted on February 22nd, 2010 by Brad
How To Sleep Alone
The Dating Papers offers some general advice on how to sleep alone. I’ll admit that when I was single I had a bad habit of staying up as late as possible…sleeping alone just isn’t fun. Still, you’ve got to do it sometime. This article offers some advice for this.
Co-Sleeping
This article discusses a rather…humorous…part of sharing the bed with someone and asks how to handle a potentially awkward situation while spooning.
The Cuddling Kama Sutra
While we’re on the topic [...]
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Posted on February 18th, 2010 by Brad
Little White Profile Lies
This Washington Post article discusses some of the most common lies in dating profiles: height and weight. It also states that 8 out of 10 profiles have some type of lie in it. When I was dating online I had plenty of first dates but only one where the woman I met had blatantly lied about her appearance…so if 80% of people are lying I think most of those lies must be pretty small, at least based [...]
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Posted on February 16th, 2010 by Brad
As I am frequent to complain about, finding really good dating advice can be difficult. I’ve found some good sources and I try to list them as I find them here. However far, far too many sites offer the “how to seduce a woman” type of advice that really isn’t helping anyone (excluding whoever is selling the advice, and there is almost always a price). This is the type of dating advice that discourages singles more than it helps them [...]
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Posted on February 12th, 2010 by Brad
This is the second part of my discussion regarding online dating advice. You can find more of my thoughts behind this in the first post, on why some dating advice can be more harmful than helpful.
1. Easy Answers
In many cases there is no easy answer. The people who are selling easy answers often believe the answers are easy…even though they’re not. Their personal experience of having an easy time with a problem gives them a very wrong impression of how [...]
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Posted on February 10th, 2010 by Brad
A few months ago I wrote a series of articles on avoiding online dating scams. One of the scams I discussed was the 419 scam. This involves the scammer convincing their target to send them money for one reason or another. With online dating it will often be the scam will often involve the person you are communicating with needing financial help for a troubling situation or because they want to meet you. For a recent example of this, check [...]
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Posted on February 8th, 2010 by Brad
I found an interesting article that proposes a math equation for suggesting the age of people you should be willing to date. I really liked this idea although as the person’s age increases, the less correct this equation seems. I really thought it worked well at the lower age ranges but in the 40s things started to get a little excessive first for the upper limit and then later for the lower limit as well.
For example, my dad happens to [...]
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Posted on February 4th, 2010 by Brad
Strangely enough, this situation seems to happen more often than I would expect: after finding a serious relationship some men still keep their online dating profile active. The explanations for this are pretty weak but these men always make the argument that there’s some good reason to keep their profile active.
If you’re a woman who has found herself in this situation, I think you have a problem on your hands. It may not mean he’s cheating but I do think [...]
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Posted on February 3rd, 2010 by Brad
As I remember all too well, spending Valentine’s Day alone can be a painful process. Spending it alone for a few years in a row only makes things worse. I wanted to share some thoughts since the date is quickly approaching and I know that there were more than a few years I hated that the holiday even existed.
It’s as Much About Money as Love
It’s a man-made holiday and is really no different than the 13th or the 15th. [...]
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Posted on January 31st, 2010 by Brad
Poll: Men More Than Women Get Depressed After Breakup
An article discusses poll results from Date.com…results that I found to be rather shocking statistics (I guess since I’m a guy). Apparently, 85 percent of men suffer some form of depression and have difficulty getting back into dating after a break-up. Compared this to only 8 percent of women! A very interesting read and I have to admit I never handled break-ups very well.
Meeting Others When You Are Single Parent
A single dad [...]
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Posted on January 23rd, 2010 by Brad
I was recently talking to a woman who decided to end an online relationship after the first date because her date had complained for much of the dinner. This got me thinking about complaining in general and how as people we are so drawn to doing so. Even when this woman came to me to discuss this bad date, she was doing so to…well…complain!
Because as people we complain so often, I don’t see the activity in itself as a [...]
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Posted on January 15th, 2010 by Brad
On this blog I devote most of my attention to online dating but this isn’t the only method of meeting people. Just because you start dating online doesn’t mean you should forget about all the other options out there. Here’s a list of some ideas for meeting people when you’re not on your favorite dating site:
Meet-up Groups
I often recommend that people try Meetup.com as it has people of all types and ages meeting up for nearly limitless reasons. If you [...]
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Posted on January 9th, 2010 by Brad
What is the best dating service on the internet? This is a popular question and that makes sense since none of us want to waste our time or money with a bad dating service. The answer to this question, though, isn’t a simple one.
It’s All About Your Situation
My thought on this is that there is no universally “best” dating service. Each individual’s situation will determine what is best for them. For example, when I started dating online, the “best” dating [...]
Filed under: online dating guide
Posted on December 31st, 2009 by Brad
In a recent article, I discussed how to dress for a first date. However, even when you know what to wear in general, there are times where it’s not clear if a particular outfit is worth wearing. We often second guess our opinion on the outfit and either decided not to wear or we wear it but worry all night long. In both cases, we can end up regretting our decision.
I’ve seen it recommended to upload a photo of yourself [...]
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Posted on December 30th, 2009 by Brad
Another year is about to begin and it’s time for people to begin making New Year’s resolutions. There are plenty of popular choices like losing weight, quitting smoking, or even trying to read more books. I would like to recommend to singles out there to see finding that special someone as your resolution this year.
Many people don’t see dating as something they would need a resolution to do. I think this is often a mistake. As veterans of online dating [...]
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Posted on December 26th, 2009 by Brad
What do you do if you create an online dating profile and someone you know ends up asking you out? This can be an awkward situation, especially if you’re not interested. For example, if you work together, you’ll likely want to avoid making life awkward for yourself with outright rejection or by ignoring them. How do let them down easily without creating a difficult situation?
The easiest way out would be to claim that you’re afraid that the dating someone [...]
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Posted on December 17th, 2009 by Brad
According to the Telegraph, scientists have declared that men should marry women who are younger and smarter than themselves. The article is a little short on the details but I did find another article stating that men who marry younger women live longer.
While I find articles like this interesting, it always seems like a new group of scientists is coming out with a new metric that will determine the success of a relationship. Finding someone you click with is often [...]
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Posted on December 15th, 2009 by Brad
I recently read a great article that describes some situations that may seem bad on a first date but could actually be a sign that things are going quite well. The article, 6 Bad First Date Signs That Are Actually Good, is worth reading because sometimes we convince ourselves that things have going horribly when they’re actually going fine. As an example, how many of us have gone on a job interview and thought we did a bad job only [...]
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Posted on December 14th, 2009 by Brad
Don’t do this! I was talking about online dating experiences the other day and woman was describing her most recent date. She was explaining why she had no intention of having another date with the man she had met the night before. There were several issues she had taken with the date itself but as we talked I get the feeling this man had ruined his chances in the first few moments of the date. Simply said, he was dressed [...]
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Posted on December 5th, 2009 by Brad
A post at Slate.com discusses eight ways to tell whether you’re being boring. While the article wasn’t written for online dating specifically, I think the article is very applicable. Some of the tips might even be a little surprising to some, such as why interruption is actually a sign of healthy conversation
I think the article provides very good tips on recognizing if you’re being boring. And the truth is, many times we can’t see that we’re not being very interesting. [...]
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Posted on December 3rd, 2009 by Brad
Before discussing some good questions to ask on a first date, I wanted to offer several tips on first date conversations in general.
First, you should ask your questions with a purpose. Specifically, you should be trying to determine if this is someone you would like to continue to spend time with. Don’t just find a bunch of questions on the internet to ask just so you can “fill the silence”. While I will provide examples it’s best if you [...]
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