Why Desperation Is So Unattractive

I’ve recently been discussing the difficulties of dating with a friend of mine. In her case, the struggle has been that while she wants to date someone looking for a serious relationship, many of the guys she meets make it clear they are not ready for that. At the same time, she hasn’t been interested […]



An Introduction to Online Dating

When I started writing my online dating guide, I had hoped it would be helpful to people that were either brand new to online dating or who were considering using a dating service. However, based on my traffic, it appears that most of my readers are already taking advantage of an online dating service. While […]



Issues with the Match.com Six Month Guarantee

A friend of mine tried out the Match.com six month program where if you don’t meet that “special someone”, you will get 6 months free. Unfortunately, when he came to the end of his six months they said he didn’t qualify even though, as far as he could tell, he did. I checked online for […]



Politics and Dating

If you live in the United States, you’ll probably know that today is Super Tuesday. For anyone not familiar with U.S. politics, this is the day where the largest number of states will hold their primaries in the process to select a party’s presidential candidate. I still have some time before I’ll be voting (I […]



Does Quantity Really Lead to Success?

In a recent post, as well as in my guide, I argue that it is a good thing to date as many people as possible. A very interesting article at 40s Singleness takes exception with this advice. The author, one Lisa Q, challenges this idea with some questions that point out that simply dating for […]



Tips on Asking and Getting Asked Out

Here are two articles that are helpful for finding dates outside of online dating:

For the guys: 6 Ways to Ask Her Out
For the ladies: Help Him Ask You Out!

While I separated those articles based on who they were written for, I found the article for women more interesting. The advice for the guys is […]



5 Tips on Re-Entering the Dating Scene

When I started online dating, I hadn’t been on a date for several years. Getting started was very difficult and to be honest I wasn’t sure where to begin. So, with that in mind, here are some tips to getting started:
Take Advantage of Online Dating
I’ve made the case for online dating time and again on […]



When Dates Go Bad: The Self-Righteous Dater

Have you ever been on a first date where from the very beginning your date was rude or angry? I’ve experienced this type of date once when using internet dating sites and have heard several horror stories from friends who have also run into this. From what I have seen, it seems to happen most […]



When Dates Go Bad: The Withdrawn Dater

I was on a date once and for the first fifteen minutes things were going fine. Mid-date, though, something changed and I could actually feel the woman across from me withdrawing from our conversations. Soon, every question I asked was met with a single word answer and she was making no attempts to start any […]



Improve Profile Views with your Heading

We all have had to plug in some title on our dating profiles and everyone knows it is more difficult than it looks. I never held a bland profile heading against someone because I went through the same impossible task of summing myself up in one sentence. While I don’t see the profile heading as […]



Great Source for Online Dating Advice

Since I started this site a few months ago, I’ve been actively looking for great resources that I could share here. Unfortunately, almost everything I have found online has fallen into one of three categories:

Overly general advice that feels extremely polished and impersonal. For example, the type of advice I would expect to see in […]



A Second Dating Profile Review

Last week, I was contacted with a request to review another online dating profile. Her profile was good although both Kate and I had a few comments. The profile has been shortened to only cover specific areas that advice was offered for:
The Profile
For fun I love going to the city - anything with lots […]