How the eHarmony Matching Process Appears to Work

A lot about eHarmony is “hidden” from people like you and me but I have been either using their service or talking about it for many years now and I think I have an idea of where they are coming from when they give you matches. To me, it comes down to this:

They take this so far as to not accept people to their service that they feel they can’t match well. I know this is a sore spot for some people but I actually appreciate this approach: eHarmony could make money off of the people they feel they can’t match well and then just dump all those people into one bucket where they’re matched against each other. In a sense, they could make a lot more money if they did this sort of thing. Instead, they stay honest and don’t accept those people at all.

When your matches dwindle down to a trickle, I think something similar is happening. Let’s imagine this scenario for a moment. I’m going to make this up as I don’t really know what happens but I think this is a reasonable theory:

• When you sign up at eHarmony, they identify possibly hundreds of people that you match well with. Some you match amazingly well with while others are just good matches.
• eHarmony starts providing you these matches over time. Possibly from the best matches to the just-good matches, possibly at random.
• During this time, new people are also signing up for eHarmony and they will likely appear in your matches as well.
• Eventually, you run through this entire list of good matches. What now? Well, now you’re only matches with new members who are signing up with you discussed in the bullet above.

The final bullet above points out why many people go from several matches a day (or even dozens) to just a few a week.

Take my reader from above: he claims to have been receiving a dozen matches a day for over a month. Let’s assume that worked out to 360 matches. Assuming he’s being honest, that means that either there are hundreds of people in his area signing up every day or that all of this matches are being distributed to him over time. I suspect it’s the second for two reasons:

1. Getting 360 matches the day you sign up would be overwhelming. Also, what if you’re willing to be matched with anyone in the world? That could be a HUGE number of matches to get at once.

2. What happened in his area that caused so many people to suddenly stop signing up on the same day? And he’s not the only one who has seen this phenomenon: lots of people wonder why they stop receiving matches, including myself when I was originally using the service.

So while it’s possible that eHarmony is giving you everyone they can at once, I doubt it.

Don’t Be Too Quick to Reject Your Current Matches

All this having been said, I think the way matches are delivered is less important than what you do with those matches once you receive them.

The discussion above points something out related to this: according to my reader, after a month he had 360 matches. I feel that having that many matches is amazing and I’m afraid he’s not looking at all the opportunity he’s already been provided with. I am left to wonder if he’s making the most of the matches he’s being given.

With that in mind, I’d like to recommend some thoughts on making the most of your eHarmony matches:

• Be willing to start communication with a lot of your matches. Don’t start communication with one person and then wait around and see if they’ll get back to you. If you’re paying for the service, get your money’s worth and contact everyone who catches your eye.

• I feel that women should be willing to start the communication process, not just wait around for guys to do so. If you’re a woman and like a guy’s profile, start the communication process with him. I talk about this in detail in this post.
• Be open to contacting people without photos. I feel like this a great rule for dating online in general but even better with eHarmony: they’ve found someone that you match well with. Just because they’re shy about putting a photo online doesn’t mean you should just skip them.
• Avoid being too strict on who you’re willing to start communication with. I’ve talk to a lot of singles over the years and there have been plenty of people who have amazingly specific requirements that they want to have in a mate. They won’t start communication with someone lacking just one of their requirements. Don’t let this be you. Be open to communicating with others. After all…it’s just some online communication! It’s not even a date yet. Don’t be crazy-strict at this point in online dating

Now you can ignore these suggestions and that’s fine. I’m sure plenty of people have had success without these thoughts in mind. But be aware that if you’ve received hundreds of matches only to find yourself complaining when you stop receiving dozens a day, you have perhaps not been open enough about who you’ll talk to.

And perhaps your experience was more like mine where you never received a dozen matches on a single day…well, all the more reason to be open to starting communication with the matches you do have.

A Final Saving Grace on Low Matches

One good thing that eHarmony has going for it is that they have free weekend events where non-subscribers can use the service for free. On these weekends, you should see the amount of matches you receive once again spike.

Again, I hope no one sees this as an excuse to reject their current matches quickly just because a free weekend is on the way. Still, it is a benefit worth keeping in mind.

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1. eHarmony Is Giving Me No Matches
2. Rules for eHarmony Free Events
3. Starting the Communication as a Woman on eHarmony

In that article, my main focus was sites like Match.com where the communication is started by one person by writing an email. However, recently I had a reader ask me a question regarding women making the first move with sites like eHarmony and I wanted to discuss my thoughts I shared with her.

When Online Dating Mirrors Real Life

With dating services like Match.com, there is a clear view of one of the people taking the first step. In some ways it’s similar to a bar: a man sees a woman he is interested in and walks over to her and introduces himself.

Match.com (and others like it) can be very similar in that one person is taking a step to initiate communication. Because of this many women hesitate to make the first move as this is viewed (in some traditional sense) as the man’s job. Even the women who don’t see it as the man’s “job” worry that starting the conversation could appear unattractive or desperate.

So Who Should Make the First Step in Communicating on eHarmony?

I feel that eHarmony is very different than the process described above. As I’ll be explaining, my opinion is that women should not hesitate at all to start the communication on eHarmony.

Many of the concerns women have simply don’t apply to eHarmony, in my opinion. In particular:

• Will he find me unattractive if I start the conversation?

• Am I assuming the man’s job?

I honestly feel that these concerns shouldn’t apply to eHarmony. Here’s why:


1. eHarmony is Taking the First Step…NOT the Guy or the Girl
The problem some women have with starting the communication is that they put themselves into what is traditionally viewed as the man’s role. With eHarmony this is not the case. Why?

eHarmony is providing the matches; they are saying, “We think you two could have a nice time together.” No one person is putting themselves out on a limb. You have a match: do you want to start the communication process or not? If you’re a woman and you answer yes to that question, then go ahead and kick the process off…which brings me to my next thought.


2. The Process is Going to Be Exactly the Same Regardless of Who Starts It
With eHarmony it is really more about starting a process than starting a conversation. There are no “traditional” roles for walking through a process like this.

In addition, no matter who kicks things off, you have to go through the same communication steps. You have to answer the same question, provide the same answers, and click the same buttons. For the first several steps neither the man nor the woman are in control: eHarmony is. This is just another reason to be encouraged to contact that guy you find interesting and to not over-think things!

My Own Experience with Match and eHarmony

I’d like to think of myself as progressive and a supporter of bra-burning and what-not but here’s the honest truth: when a woman contacted me on Match.com it did feel a little odd.

Not wrong! I liked being contacted. But strange all the same. Perhaps it was just because I received a very limited number of first contact emails compared to the number that I was initiating.

Conversely, eHarmony did not feel odd. It didn’t feel like anything (aside from interesting and possibly exciting). Also, on eHarmony I had a lot more women who started the process there (which may suggest that this article is simply pointing out the obvious to many women out there).

Regardless of whether you see at as obvious or not let me end with this:

The controlled environment this service offers really does support anyone getting the ball rolling.

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I heard that this change would happening back in May but I’ve been waiting until I see this for myself to write on it. Unfortunately, only paying members are able to see the last active date. I’m not sure how I feel about that: eHarmony members are often more concerned with privacy but at the same time I felt prior to signing up it would be nice to know how many of your matches are actively online.

Also, the forums mention that this information takes some time to load (much longer than the rest of the profile) so if you don’t see it right away as a paying member, give it a few minutes.

All those details aside, I think this feature should have existed years and years ago. I talk to a lot of singles who get frustrated with eHarmony when they don’t get many replies and I think giving people this information can help reduce a lot of that frustration. I mean, if your match hasn’t been active for 6 months then contacting them at all is likely a waste of time.

One favor I would ask: if any of my readers are subscribers of eHarmony, I’d love to get a screenshot of this feature to post here. I’d like to show people what they should be looking for but not at the cost of having to sign up for an eHarmony account I don’t need!

Update
Thanks to Matt who sent in an example of what this looks like:

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For professionals with an online presence, this is especially difficult since they work hard to improve people’s ability to find them online but then don’t want this to happen when dating online.

So how can these people have success online without posting their photo? Every statistic out there states that having a photo online improves your odds dramatically. Here are some thoughts on ways to still have success:

Don’t Use a Browsing Dating Service

First, many people who contact me seem to be most familiar with Match.com or sometimes OKCupid. Both of these dating services are browsing based: you log in and can browse through any profile you want. This is what makes the professor or teacher so uncomfortable: anyone could find them online, including one of their students.

The important thing here is that browsing based dating services are not the only option. Dating services like eHarmony provide you matches and there are a few benefits in this method:

1. No one can browse to find you. Only the people you are matched with will see your profile.

2. You will only be matched with specific people and most often this will eliminate any chance of a student seeing the profile (even if they have an account).
3. eHarmony profiles are much more generalized and tend to put you in a position where you are revealing fewer specifics about yourself (these specifics are instead discussed with your matches as you move through the communication process which is the core of how eharmony works).
4. Here’s the most important one: only paying subscribers can see photos. So not only would the person have to be matched with you to see your photo, they would also have to be committed enough to be paying for the service.

To me, eHarmony is a great option for the single concerned about their exposure online. For more on this service you can see my full eHarmony Review.

Still, perhaps you like the browsing services and would prefer to stick with a Match.com. The only other thought I have in that case is…

Promise to Share Photos

In your profile you can prominently state that you are willing to share your photo but because of your job (or whatever) you don’t share them by default. I say this should be the very first thing in your profile as an incentive for those who read it to try to start communicating with you.

Unfortunately, that doesn’t solve the biggest problem: people will often not even open profiles without photos. So how do you get them to open your profile in the first place?

1. First, you can use the heading of your profile to state you have photos. You can even have fun with it with something like “Don’t skip this profile – I do have photos!”

2. Guys, as the ones doing much of the initial contacting, you’re actually in a good spot if you need to avoid having photos. This is because every email you send is an invitation to look at your profile. You may find that your not having a photo does very little harm if you’re willing to actively reach out to others.
3. Ladies, even though guys are often expected to do the contacting, in this situation you should be far more willing to do the same. At the very least wink at some guys to get them to check your profile out. You’ll need to be far more proactive than normal. Good news though: my wife didn’t have a photo on her profile and I still managed to find her! So while it makes it more difficult, having no photo doesn’t make it impossible.

Still, If You Can Have a Photo…

All that said, if you can have a photo it really is best. You might want to check with a friend to be sure you’re not being overly paranoid about posting a photo. Maybe you are in a position that would absolutely prohibit you from placing photos on a dating site…but honestly most conversations I have don’t seem to suggest that is frequently the case.

Still, the it’s your call to make. Just make sure that if you’re not including photos that you’re taking steps to make sure you can still have a lot of success with online dating!

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Using Multiple Dating Services

My opinion is that you should absolutely use multiple dating services. Also, I think everyone that is paying to use online dating should be using multiple dating service simply because there are great free dating services out there as well. If you’re paying for Match.com, why not use OKCupid as well since it’s free?

Personally, I was paying for both eHarmony an Match.com when I met my wife. During the year that I had actively been dating online prior to meeting her, I frequently used multiple services. A lot of this came down to wanting to follow what I felt was the best approach to online dating, which I describe in my post Dating Multiple People (and Why You Should Be Doing It).

Thoughts on Subscriptions

If you can afford to pay for two dating services, that’s great. I would like to make a suggestion: don’t sign up for too long at any one dating service. For example, if you decided on two dating services you want to try, I would recommend against signing up for both of them for a year.

Instead, I recommend subscribing for 3-months if you’re new to online dating or unsure of how much you will like the service. If you are experienced with online dating and know you like the service I think 6-months can work. That being said, I would never recommend signing up for a full year. It’s jut too long a window of time (and I talk about this in greater detail here).

My approach went like this: I would sign up for a few service but for a short or medium length of time. As one service began to feel “stale”, I would switch to another service once my subscription was up or I would simply go from using two services to one and at a later date might sign up for a second. I feel this approach offers you more variety and opportunity over picking two services and signing up for as long as you can to both of them.

If you take an approach similar to mine, you will need a set of services that you switch between. The services I recommend the most are:

• Match.com

• eHarmony
• Chemistry
• PerfectMatch

There are plenty of other great services but I am most familiar with these and have the most trust in them (were I still dating online today these are the services I would use).

Should My Profiles Be Different?

I was once contacted by a guy who was wondering if he should try to hide the fact that he was on both dating services. He had considered using different photos and writing a totally different profile at each dating site. Honestly, whether I agree with doing this really depends on your approach.

If you want to test a different way of presenting yourself in how you write your profile, I think that’s fine. However, you need to remain honest and really present who you are. Writing a different profile for each dating site shouldn’t be about you trying to figure out what other people want and then trying to become that. It should be about trying to figure out the best way to present who you are.

Also, I don’t think there should be any concern about someone seeing you on both dating sites. You’re looking to find a relationship and you’re looking in more than one place. It’s not a big deal and humans have been doing that since relationships began. Anyway, if they are seeing your profile on both sites, they’re using both of them as well!

Using Different Photos
As far as photos go, I think using different photos on each sites might is a good idea for two reasons:

1. As people become more familiar with certain pictures, they stop viewing those profiles. You want people viewing your profile even if on the first dating site they decided they weren’t interested.

2. It gives you a good opportunity to see which primary photo gets you the most attention

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Recently, I had caught the very end of a TV show discussing ChristianCafe.com. I suppose it would be labeled an infomercial since it’s a half-hour show about one service but it was actually quite interesting. I’m sure it wouldn’t catch everyone’s interest but to a single Christian (or to a guy who writes about online dating in this case), it doesn’t have the feel of watching a long commercial.

Instead of the normal infomercial (you know, with people going crazy about how amazingly well a product can chop vegetables or suck up nuts and bolts) this program came off as both honest and interesting. Definitely more “info” than “mercial” from my point of view.

I looked around for the video online to try to watch the rest of it but wasn’t able to find it. I reached out to ChristianCafe.com to see if I could get the video to post it myself and they were quick to help me do so (more than a little surprised by that…previous attempts to contact dating services have been met with silence). Below is the entire program, broken down into two parts.

Part 1:

Part 2:

Thoughts on the Program
I really appreciated that they included both people who had success with the service as well as someone who was still using the service that hadn’t found the “one”. This seemed particularly honest to me as normal marketing seems to dictate that we only include those who have amazing success stories.

I didn’t meet my wife on a Christian dating site but I could really relate to many of the things Sam spoke to in the video. In particular, I was very familiar with the “I was born in the U.S., therefore I am a Christian” mentality. In my situation, I learned to dig deeper than just reviewing what the woman placed as her religion. A big part of why I ended up contacting the woman I would marry was for this very reason: she spoke specifically (and excitedly) about her involvement in her church in her profile.

Having seen the entire program now, my initial impression appears correct – the video was very well made while remaining honest and informative. Hope you enjoyed it as well.

Also, as the video stated, ChristianCafe.com is currently offering additional time for free if you use the keyword CORNERSTONE when you sign-up (I believe the video was made specifically for CornerStone TV if you’re wondering about that one). I’m not sure how long that promo code will last but I would expect for an extended time. Just be aware that if you’re reading this years from now (this is being written in April of 2011) the promo may have ended.

On a side note, I’d also like to recommend Pinnacle VideoSpin if you’re looking for a great free application to do some video editing. Admittedly, I only had to split the video in half and add a few transitions but VideoSpin worked great and I was able to figure everything out just by using the application for a few minutes.

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The test is designed by Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist who is skilled in the science of human attraction and the best-selling author of books such as Anatomy of Loveas well as the book Why Him? Why Her?which is an analysis of the four personality types and why people are attracted to one another.

Chemistry.com has the typical attributes that many dating services offer. Yet, Chemistry.com also has added features that make their dating site more personable and unique. Some of the distinctive features that make Chemistry.com so popular are:

Chemistry.com Features

• Available to singles in both the United States and Canada

• Professional guidance on profiles, photos, and emails
• Matches are provided and are based on personality type and preference: no searching through profiles as personalized matches save time
• Frequent free weekend events where you are able to use the service for free
• A 1.2.3 MEET process that allows you to ask short pre-made questions. It is designed to help you know your matches better
• The service helps set up your first date for a face-to-face meeting
• Chemistry is a closed community to protect a members privacy and identity, only your matches who have a profile on Chemistry can view profiles
• Chemistry.com has local city pages such as New York City dating or Washington D.C. dating. Other cities include Chicago, Dallas, Houston, Denver, Los Angeles and Seattle
• If you already have a Match.com profile, you can transfer your that profile to Chemistry.com (if you desire to)
• The service offers unique activities with matches to get to know one another before you meet
• Archives (former matches including communication with your matches)
• “Chemistry Buzz” gives you the newest exclusive news, topics, and activities
• A 14-day free trial is available to give the service a try before subscribing
• Provides the option to receive 5 daily matches when you become a member
• After a first date, Chemistry encourages feedback to either help you celebrate or screen for better dates
• Chemistry.com won the 2008 Effie Award (Bronze) in the David vs. Goliath category for their “Come as You Are” campaign to accept all types into their dating service and to reject no one.

If you would like to learn more about this service, you can see my full review or you can visit Chemistry.com itself.

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Match.com Service Details

Match.com has the usual applications that most dating services have. However, Match.com has additional features that make online dating fun, safe, and worthwhile. Some of the unique features that attract new members are:

• Data queries for matching which is based on profile information and user activity

• Five daily matches sent to you via email
• Reasonable prices and often has a 20% off any plan
• An option to share your opinions in short quizzes and surveys
• Match.com supports international matching in your native country and language
• The dating service also offers users the opportunity to have a professional writer help create your profile for you
• Feature that allows you to talk on the phone while keep your actual phone number private
• Search for matches from your mobile phone with apps for Blackberry, Android and the iPhone/iPad
• An official company blog with posts from the CEO, the General Manager, Dr. Helen Fisher an author and expert in the science of human attraction (better known for her involvement with Chemistry.com), and Match.com’s Relationship Insider Whitney Casey
• Match.com also partners with other companies such as Yahoo! or Glamour Magazine where Match.com partnered with for several years to create Glamour Matchmaker

Not only does Match.com have subscribers from all over the world but they also have a wide variety of age groups and cultural backgrounds. Recent Match.com studies show quite a variety of people who are members.

• There are 52% female and 48% male subscribers

• Around 48% of the members are college graduates
• An average of 56% of the members are ages 25 to 44
• People 50 and older are the fastest-growing segment of users
• Approximately 44% of the members make between $35k to $50k yearly

Try Match.com Today

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• Who’s Viewing You to see the matches that are reviewing your eHarmony profile

• Communication Events which displays recent messages you have received
• Updates to Profile text to alert you of when you can review changes to your matches profile
• Updates to Photos to alert you of when one of your matches has new photos to check out

OK…But Why Should I Care About This?

I realize this may seem like a trivial change but it isn’t and here’s why: now when you update your profile or change your photos, all of your matches are are going to be alerted. This could be a good or bad thing (depending on what you’re doing) but either way it is something you’ll want to be aware of.

This change could be a great thing because when you add photos or change your profile your matches will be alerted and if they might decide to give you another chance if for some reason they decided they didn’t want to start the communication process with you.

However, if you’re the type of person who is constantly updating tiny details of your profile to get it just right you will also want to keep this new feature in mind. Announcing that your profile has changed to all of your matches every day could have unintended results…especially if you’re not taking that this is happening into account.

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A Brief Overview of eHarmony
If you’re brand new to eHarmony, the service operates by providing you with “matches” which are other singles who they have calculated will be most compatible with you. To accomplish this, you will complete an in-depth questionnaire when you first create your profile.

In addition, another unique feature of eHarmony is their guided communication process that helps guide singles through the first few stages of getting to learn about one another.

The matching system and guided communication are the core of this online dating service and without them, eHarmony wouldn’t be much different than other online dating services.

What I Like About eHarmony

In my opinion, there is a lot to like about eHarmony. It is a highly polished website that really does offer its members a solid chance of meeting that “special someone”. However, this is the case for most of the popular online dating services today (they tend to be popular for a reason!). However, there are several areas that I particularly like about eHarmony that puts in above some other dating services.

A Great Introduction to Online Dating
eHarmony wasn’t the first online dating service I tried…or second. But I eventually did end up using it and looking back I wish it had been my first choice when I started dating online.

The main reason for this is that when I started dating online I had no idea what I was doing: I wasn’t sure if or when I should “wink” at someone, how many emails I should write before scheduling a date and so on.

The great thing about eHarmony is the process is guided through set steps that make it easy, even for the novice to online dating. When I started using eHarmony I remember finally feeling comfortable with how the communication process should move forward. Yeah, I still made a lot of mistakes dating online but getting through the initial communicating phase was much easier.

The Matching System Is…Fun
Overall, I felt that eHarmony did a good job matching me with other people. I don’t really remember any time where I thought to myself, “What in the world were they thinking matching me with this woman?”

However, aside from providing good matches, the matching system was actually fun and interesting to use. I enjoyed reading how the service saw my personality and the personality of others. It was an enjoyable process receiving new matching and reviewing them…more so than with other services where you browse through hundreds of profiles as you please. There seemed to be more purpose and that made parts of the process enjoyable where they were just plain-old processes with some other services.

Members Take Their Dating Seriously
Unlike some other dating services, it seemed that there was a much higher number of people using eHarmony to find a real relationship. I’m sure this is in part to how eHarmony has marketed itself, making marriage a big part of how they promote their service. I appreciated the “culture” of the people using the dating service and know that the people I met were on the same page as I was.

Matching With an Emphasis on What Is Important to You
When you fill out your personality profile, you rank what is important to you and what you want a potential mate to have. This is great for finding matches in areas such as religion. All dating services offer the option to enter religious affiliation but many times people enter this information arbitrarily or their level of commitment can’t be determined at all. With eHarmony, requiring that someone hold similar views will automatically remove these issues for you as they will have to define these areas when creating their personality profile.

The Free Events
Another nice feature of eHarmony is their free events. I’m not sure if eHarmony created the “free dating event” but it’s the first major dating service I remember doing so. The rules to these events have changed over time but eHarmony continues to provide singles with a change to try their service out in one for or another. For more on this, see my article on the free eHarmony events.

What I Didn’t Like About eHarmony

I don’t believe I’ve ever tried an online dating service that I would consider perfect…and I don’t suppose there ever will be a “perfect” one. While I found my experiences with eHarmony very positive overall, there were a few areas that I didn’t like.

Low Numbers of Matches (Sometimes)
I know this isn’t a problem for everyone but there were times were I was receiving only a few new matches every week. I’ve heard others talk about how they’ve received 100+ matches in a month and while I did have some great weeks as far as getting matches goes, I also had some light weeks as well.

This highlights something good about eHarmony: they’re not going to give you bad matches. The service will provide you with no matches instead of providing you with poor ones. I respect and appreciate that they take this approach but at the same time you can’t help but being a bit bothered when you have no one new to pursue.

I should mention that I lived in the country and was limiting my matches to 30 miles of myself. People who live closer to cities or who are willing to travel further shouldn’t have this problem…but for those who are like I was, this is something to keep in mind.

Getting Conversations Going
I mentioned above in what I liked about eHarmony the fact that once I made it through the guided communication that the odds of meeting the women were very high. However, the other side of that coin is that I sometimes found it more difficult to get conversations started.

Looking back, I think this was more about the structure of the service as opposed to the people using it. When I was using a service like Match.com where I could contact anyone I wanted, the women who didn’t respond were quickly forgotten. In eHarmony, I had those matches sitting there reminding me that I had made the initial contact but that things never moved beyond that.

The Price Tag
eHarmony is one of the more expensive online dating services. I’m sure the high cost is associated with the personalized matching that the service provides and I can understand that. Still, the price is a bit of a sticker shock the first time you see it. I do believe that the service is worth the money in the end…but that doesn’t mean I have to like the price! You can see details on the pricing here.

Final Thoughts

As far as my opinion goes, eHarmony is a great service. I think most people considering online dating would benefit from trying and understanding eHarmony, if only for one of their free events. However, I also feel that eHarmony would be the best option for people who fall into one of the following categories:

• If you are new to or confused about online

• If you’re shy about dating
• Living in a big city where you feel overwhelmed by the options in other dating services
• Dating with marriage as the ultimate goal
• Dating with religion as your top priority
• If you are currently frustrated by the type of people you are meeting with other dating services

While I believe eHarmony could work for most of us, I think the list above highlights situations where the service provides even more value.

Try eHarmony Today.

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