Online Dating Guide & Blog

From time to time I help readers by reviewing their profiles. Much of the advice I give is covered in my online dating guide but every now and again I think it’s good to go over a real example with all my readers.

To be honest, many people who contact me about their profile already have what I would consider to be a good start to a profile. Not always great, but generally if people care enough to contact me then [...]

Filed under: dating profiles

I have a friend named Kate Houston who I have talked about from time to time on this website. She runs a really unique service: she helps people write great online dating profiles in really unique ways. I like her work because she helps people “market” themselves instead of just “talk” about themselves…and I think there’s a big difference! You can see some examples of how she’s helped people at her website TrySweetTalk.com.

Recently, Kate was interviewed by the TV channel [...]

Filed under: dating profiles

I’ve already shared my thoughts on how I recommend creating a dating profile in my article Step-by-Step Guide to Creating Your Dating Profile..

The truth is, I run this site and give dating advice in my spare time…which means I don’t have nearly enough time to help rewrite all of my readers profiles. So my goal all along with my step-by-step profile creation article was to enable people to improve their profiles without needing me.

Recently I was contacted by someone regarding [...]

Filed under: dating profiles

As you date online, refreshing your dating profile from time to time is often a very good idea. This can be a good rule in general but there are some cases where doing so can be very helpful.

Filed under: dating profiles

The traditional approach to dating, where men initiate much of the communication, can be a blessing and a curse. When the number of contacts being received is high, a woman has little need to search out the guys she wants to contact. However, when the contacts are low many women are presented with a significant problem (especially the women who prefer for men to initiate the communication).

Filed under: dating profiles

There’s a really interesting article over at Gizmodo that analyzes some OKCupid data to reveal the mathematics of beauty. This is another great article and another example of why I’m such a fan of OKCupid (both as an online dating service and perhaps the best resource for online dating statistics).

The article is interesting and I would recommend anyone interested in the numbers behind what men find attractive to check it out. That being said, something surprised me at the end [...]

Filed under: dating profiles

This is a guest post by Kate Houston of trysweettalk.com

If you’re dating online then you have a lot of competition. There are millions of people out there and each one is competing for attention. So how do you make sure your soulmate shows up in your inbox? Take tips from people who know how to get noticed – advertisers. Treat your dating profile like an ad and you can stand out from the competition.

Filed under: dating profiles

Through this blog, from time to time I find myself reviewing profiles. One of the most common problems I see is the tendency for people to share a little too much, a little too fast. Often the extra details are confusing but other times they are damaging. In either case, the profile isn’t strengthened by it. I wanted to briefly discuss the idea of intentionally being aware of what you are revealing about yourself in your dating profile.

Filed under: dating profiles

I’ve looked at my fair share of online dating profiles and I wanted to talk about one of the bad habits I see in many profiles: the plea for contact. There are many examples of this; some good examples but honestly most of the time when I see someone trying to encourage communication it isn’t done in a good way. Here are some of the more common ways people will attempt this:

If you decide to contact me, I’m very flattered.
Please [...]

Filed under: dating profiles, online dating guide

There are some online dating sites that will automatically assign you a user name but most of the popular dating service (including Match and eHarmony) will require that you create your own user name. I recently had some traffic coming to my site where the people were obviously looking for the answer to that question so I wanted to briefly speak to this.

First, you need to keep in mind that your user name is not going to be very important [...]

Filed under: dating profiles, online dating guide

I found myself reading an article recently about professional profile writing and it discussed how Kate Houston, the owner of TrySweetTalk.com, is helping singles find success with well written dating profiles. I’ve worked with Kate some in the past and I think the examples on her site show exactly how good she is at what she does. Plus, at $80 (last I heard anyway – her prices may change) it’s a pretty good deal.

However, the article got me thinking about [...]

Filed under: dating profiles

I see this question come up from time to time. The first question I always find myself asking is: Why? Why would you want to contact someone who had nothing interesting in her profile?

I already know the answer as it’s not too hard to figure out: she’s attractive. Even though I wonder at contacting someone who you don’t find interesting, I will still try to answer this to the best of my ability.

First is her profile missing details or do [...]

Filed under: dating profiles