Posted on August 26th, 2010 by Brad
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We all have different voices – some screechy, some mellow; some high, some low. To some extent, our voices play a key part in attracting and being attracted. Seductive, charming, confident voices; Australian accents, Scottish accents, Irish accents – we all have our preferences. Yet little would we suspect that the simple matter of vocal pitch could have an immense influence on our emotions.
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Posted on June 21st, 2010 by Brad
When I first started providing dating advice, I had assumed that I would have more visitors to my site on the weekends. My thinking was that people would be reminded of being single the most on the weekends and therefore would be looking to solve that problem then. Well, that theory turned out to be incorrect – at least as far as my site statistics are concerned. For as long as I’ve been tracking the traffic to my site I [...]
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Posted on April 10th, 2010 by Brad
Over the last few years, I’ve answered many online dating questions. In this post, I’m going to keep a collection of my favorite posts among them. If you have an online dating question that I’ve not answered at this site please feel free to contact me.
If you’re looking for good first date questions, check out this article instead: First Date Questions
Online Dating Questions:
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Posted on March 4th, 2010 by Brad
A few months ago I reviewed The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and as I mentioned in that post, I thought the book was great. I know that my relationship with my wife has been improved because of it.
Recently, I was contacted the publisher of this book and they wanted to let me know about their online test. This will allow anyone to quickly discover which love language is their most dominant. Discovering your love language is interesting but [...]
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Posted on March 2nd, 2010 by Brad
I’m really learning to love OKCupid more every day. As I’ve written here in the past, it is my recommended free dating service. Aside from offering a great free dating option, they’re the only service that offers substantial statistics on the dating habits of their members.
In some ways I believe these statistics aren’t going to tell the whole story as I believe the type of clientele will differ from service to service. As an example, this article I’m about [...]
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Posted on February 26th, 2010 by Brad
This article asks the question: Can Twitter replace online dating sites? My first thought to this prior to reading the article was: weren’t people asking this same question about MySpace a few years ago? As I had mentioned back then, people also meet in grocery stores but that doesn’t mean grocery stores are going to replace bars, clubs or singles events. And so my first thought to this question was a resounding “No”.
However, after reading the article I’ll say that [...]
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Posted on February 20th, 2010 by Brad
As I lay out in my online dating guide, I think one approach that should be taken with online dating is to date as many people as as you can simultaneously. There are many reasons for this such as gaining confidence and just improving your odds by the number of people you are meeting. However, I don’t want to go over all of that again here.
Instead, I wanted to direct my readers to an article at Dating Advice From A [...]
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Posted on February 18th, 2010 by Brad
Little White Profile Lies
This Washington Post article discusses some of the most common lies in dating profiles: height and weight. It also states that 8 out of 10 profiles have some type of lie in it. When I was dating online I had plenty of first dates but only one where the woman I met had blatantly lied about her appearance…so if 80% of people are lying I think most of those lies must be pretty small, at least based [...]
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Posted on February 16th, 2010 by Brad
As I am frequent to complain about, finding really good dating advice can be difficult. I’ve found some good sources and I try to list them as I find them here. However far, far too many sites offer the “how to seduce a woman” type of advice that really isn’t helping anyone (excluding whoever is selling the advice, and there is almost always a price). This is the type of dating advice that discourages singles more than it helps them [...]
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Posted on February 10th, 2010 by Brad
A few months ago I wrote a series of articles on avoiding online dating scams. One of the scams I discussed was the 419 scam. This involves the scammer convincing their target to send them money for one reason or another. With online dating it will often be the scam will often involve the person you are communicating with needing financial help for a troubling situation or because they want to meet you. For a recent example of this, check [...]
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Posted on January 4th, 2010 by Brad
If you’re a man and you’ve ever been frustrated by the fact that you fall apart socially around beautiful women, it’s not just you. According to a study discussed in the Telegraph, studies have shown that men actually do lose much of their ability to think and reason when around pretty women:
The research shows men who spend even a few minutes in the company of an attractive woman perform less well in tests designed to measure brain function than those [...]
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Posted on January 2nd, 2010 by Brad
Over at SingleCityGuy.com, there’s a discussion of how women give their female friends awful advice regarding men. I’m not sure that this is a universal problem but I have seen exactly what he’s talking about. I’ve been absolutely flabbergasted by some suggestions women have made when debating dating situations regarding men. The problem, as the article points out, is that women are over-thinking how much thought we’re putting into our decisions.
A recent movie, He’s Just Not That Into You [...]
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Posted on December 17th, 2009 by Brad
According to the Telegraph, scientists have declared that men should marry women who are younger and smarter than themselves. The article is a little short on the details but I did find another article stating that men who marry younger women live longer.
While I find articles like this interesting, it always seems like a new group of scientists is coming out with a new metric that will determine the success of a relationship. Finding someone you click with is often [...]
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Posted on December 15th, 2009 by Brad
I recently read a great article that describes some situations that may seem bad on a first date but could actually be a sign that things are going quite well. The article, 6 Bad First Date Signs That Are Actually Good, is worth reading because sometimes we convince ourselves that things have going horribly when they’re actually going fine. As an example, how many of us have gone on a job interview and thought we did a bad job only [...]
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Posted on November 19th, 2009 by Brad
A few weeks ago I had mentioned that a study had shown that your appearance in a photo reveals a lot about you. Later I discussed why picking the right photo for your dating profile, even without this study to prove it, is very important.
Newsweek covers this same study in far greater detail in an article called Making a Digital First Impression and a part of the article covered a real-world example of this with online dating. One of the [...]
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Posted on November 17th, 2009 by Brad
Some Dating Email Dos And Don’ts
Quick tips on CNN provided by the site TheFrisky.com for sending emails and overall I found the advice good. In some ways I was surprised as I find myself shaking my head more often than not when the main stream media dives into the dating advice business. Maybe it made sense since someone else wrote it (although I’m not actually familiar with TheFrisky.com). I will say that number 5, which says you should wait at [...]
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Posted on September 13th, 2009 by Brad
This week I was contacted by folks over at Cougared.com who were looking to get some attention to statistics they have collected. They had recently finished surveying older women who prefer to date younger men (referred to as “cougars”) and some of the information they found is interesting:
The most common age group for cougar women between 40 and 43
A very large percentage of these women are looking for a serious relationship (rather surprising I guess when considering some of [...]
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Posted on September 8th, 2009 by Brad
When I started dating online, I would drag my feet before meeting a woman. I wanted to make sure she was exactly what I was looking for before we met. Whenever I did finally meet someone I would almost always find out within the first few minutes of talking that she wasn’t the match I believed her to be. My first dates were stressful, disappointing, few and far-between. In the second phase of my online dating life (the [...]
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Posted on September 7th, 2009 by Brad
Do not put your faith in what statistics say until you have carefully considered what they do not say.
- William W. Watt
OkCupid.com has some interesting statistics on online dating emails, specifically some numbers on who gets responses to their first email. Creating good first emails is something I’ve discussed in my online dating guide and also in some posts. My advice has always been keep your first contact brief and OkCupid agrees with this…but for some very different reasons.
My [...]
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Posted on February 3rd, 2008 by Brad
Things have been busy around here lately but here’s a quick link to a short article in USA Weekend with 5 Tips for Online Dating. I like the fourth tip the best and don’t really agree with the fifth (I avoided phone conversations after one woman wouldn’t stop contacting me). Still, these tips are a good start if thinking about joining the online dating world.
You might also be interested in reading:
5 Online Daters to Avoid
Profile Views vs. Actual Interest
What Makes [...]
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Brad is a happily married man that found great success (and his wife!) using online dating. He now shares his thoughts and experiences, on this site and in his free online dating guide, to assist others in finding success. 
