Why Desperation Is So Unattractive

I’ve recently been discussing the difficulties of dating with a friend of mine. In her case, the struggle has been that while she wants to date someone looking for a serious relationship, many of the guys she meets make it clear they are not ready for that. At the same time, she hasn’t been interested […]



An Introduction to Online Dating

When I started writing my online dating guide, I had hoped it would be helpful to people that were either brand new to online dating or who were considering using a dating service. However, based on my traffic, it appears that most of my readers are already taking advantage of an online dating service. While […]



Dating Services: How Long Should I Sign Up For?

My last article talked about an offer from Match.com where you could get six months free after paying for six months (although there are more than a few hoops to jump through to earn those free months). At any rate, the very fact that you have to pay for six months up-front got me thinking […]



Politics and Dating

If you live in the United States, you’ll probably know that today is Super Tuesday. For anyone not familiar with U.S. politics, this is the day where the largest number of states will hold their primaries in the process to select a party’s presidential candidate. I still have some time before I’ll be voting (I […]



AmericanSingles.com and Fraudulent Charges

In August of 2006, I had my first experience with a fraudulent charge on a credit card. The charge was for service at AmericanSingles.com and was labeled “VISA CHECK CARD PURCHASE SPR*AMERICANSINGLES.COM 888-8543803 CA”. While I had visited AmericanSingles and had used the free services they provide for a short time, I never provided them […]



Does Quantity Really Lead to Success?

In a recent post, as well as in my guide, I argue that it is a good thing to date as many people as possible. A very interesting article at 40s Singleness takes exception with this advice. The author, one Lisa Q, challenges this idea with some questions that point out that simply dating for […]



Tips on Asking and Getting Asked Out

Here are two articles that are helpful for finding dates outside of online dating:

For the guys: 6 Ways to Ask Her Out
For the ladies: Help Him Ask You Out!

While I separated those articles based on who they were written for, I found the article for women more interesting. The advice for the guys is […]



5 Tips on Re-Entering the Dating Scene

When I started online dating, I hadn’t been on a date for several years. Getting started was very difficult and to be honest I wasn’t sure where to begin. So, with that in mind, here are some tips to getting started:
Take Advantage of Online Dating
I’ve made the case for online dating time and again on […]



Online Dating Advice for the Shy

One of the local newspapers here in Pittsburgh has an advice column which I discovered today. I’m not a fan of these columns because, in most cases, the columnists answer questions as if everything is overly simple. They also come off as overly-confident to me; as if no detail they are unaware of could […]



Is Online Dating Worth It?

Recently I started offering dating advice through Yahoo! Answers. If you’re not familiar with Yahoo! Answers, it is a community where you earn points by answering questions and spend points to ask questions. The questions can be anything at all. There are plenty of people asking online dating questions so I check it out every […]



When Dates Go Bad: The Self-Righteous Dater

Have you ever been on a first date where from the very beginning your date was rude or angry? I’ve experienced this type of date once when using internet dating sites and have heard several horror stories from friends who have also run into this. From what I have seen, it seems to happen most […]



When Dates Go Bad: The Withdrawn Dater

I was on a date once and for the first fifteen minutes things were going fine. Mid-date, though, something changed and I could actually feel the woman across from me withdrawing from our conversations. Soon, every question I asked was met with a single word answer and she was making no attempts to start any […]