Posted on March 5th, 2010 by Brad
Recently I’ve received quite a few questions from women on winks so I wanted to take the time to answer a few of those questions here. I’ve discussed my thoughts on winks in great detail but I wanted to cover these specific questions as well. I would recommend you read that article first as I cover the dynamics of winking in detail there. On to the questions:
Should I Wink at a Guy I Find Attractive?
My opinion on this one is [...]
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Posted on March 1st, 2010 by Brad
In my last post I discussed some of the good and the bad regarding the usefulness of Chemistry’s 14-day trial. This time I wanted to offer tips to those who do decided to take advantage of this offer. My hope is to provide advice that will help make the most of the dating service while it’s free.
1. Mention You’re Trying the Free Trial
One part that is difficult with any online dating service trial is that the people you contact don’t [...]
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Posted on February 28th, 2010 by Brad
As of today, Chemistry offers a 14 day trial to try out their service for free. Recently I received the question: Is the Chemistry.com free trial worth it? At first, I thought this was an odd question. If it’s free, how could it not be worth it? However, the more I thought about it the more I realized the real answer is “it depends”.
Can I Have Success with Chemisty.com in the 14-Day Trial?
This is the question that was actually being [...]
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Posted on February 24th, 2010 by Brad
YourTango has a good article on Twitter Top 10: Who To Follow For Dating Advice. I thought this was a pretty good list and I guess more and more people will be looking to collect advice, dating or otherwise, using Twitter. Of course, you can always follow me too! Honestly, though, I’m not the best tweeter and generally only tweet my new posts so the list above would probably be more useful.
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Posted on February 22nd, 2010 by Brad
How To Sleep Alone
The Dating Papers offers some general advice on how to sleep alone. I’ll admit that when I was single I had a bad habit of staying up as late as possible…sleeping alone just isn’t fun. Still, you’ve got to do it sometime. This article offers some advice for this.
Co-Sleeping
This article discusses a rather…humorous…part of sharing the bed with someone and asks how to handle a potentially awkward situation while spooning.
The Cuddling Kama Sutra
While we’re on the topic [...]
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Posted on February 19th, 2010 by Brad
What is a VIP email message? It stands for “Very Interested Person” and this is a new type of message that Match.com is testing at the time of this writing (right now only some users are currently able to use). You should see a “Use Your VIP Email” button when you’re writing an email if you’re in the group of users who have this feature enabled.
A VIP email has a few rules and features that make it significantly different than [...]
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Posted on February 12th, 2010 by Brad
This is the second part of my discussion regarding online dating advice. You can find more of my thoughts behind this in the first post, on why some dating advice can be more harmful than helpful.
1. Easy Answers
In many cases there is no easy answer. The people who are selling easy answers often believe the answers are easy…even though they’re not. Their personal experience of having an easy time with a problem gives them a very wrong impression of how [...]
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Posted on February 12th, 2010 by Brad
There is a lot of dating advice out there and much of it tries to make your dating problems sound as if they are the easiest thing to solve in the world. Recently I was shown a video of a very handsome man giving dating advice on how everyone should just “get over” rejection. By looking at him it became clear that he had done most of the rejecting in his dating life (he made comments that further strengthened this [...]
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Posted on February 8th, 2010 by Brad
I found an interesting article that proposes a math equation for suggesting the age of people you should be willing to date. I really liked this idea although as the person’s age increases, the less correct this equation seems. I really thought it worked well at the lower age ranges but in the 40s things started to get a little excessive first for the upper limit and then later for the lower limit as well.
For example, my dad happens to [...]
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Posted on February 6th, 2010 by Brad
Something that’s been around for a while (especially in Japan) but that I’ve only heard about recently is something called group dating. This works exactly like it sounds it would: a group of single men go out on a date with an equal number of single women.
In many ways, this is something that happens naturally at times but in this case it will be planned. As an example, there are plenty of times where a group of guys and [...]
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Posted on February 4th, 2010 by Brad
Strangely enough, this situation seems to happen more often than I would expect: after finding a serious relationship some men still keep their online dating profile active. The explanations for this are pretty weak but these men always make the argument that there’s some good reason to keep their profile active.
If you’re a woman who has found herself in this situation, I think you have a problem on your hands. It may not mean he’s cheating but I do think [...]
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Posted on February 3rd, 2010 by Brad
As I remember all too well, spending Valentine’s Day alone can be a painful process. Spending it alone for a few years in a row only makes things worse. I wanted to share some thoughts since the date is quickly approaching and I know that there were more than a few years I hated that the holiday even existed.
It’s as Much About Money as Love
It’s a man-made holiday and is really no different than the 13th or the 15th. [...]
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Posted on February 2nd, 2010 by Brad
As I discuss in my online dating guide, I think it’s best to be prepared for the worst when going on a first date. By no means did all of my online first dates go bad (many went great) but there were more than a few that I expected to go well that went horribly. As I’ve suggested, I think the best approach is to tell the person you’ll be meeting that you will only be available for a short [...]
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Posted on January 23rd, 2010 by Brad
I was recently talking to a woman who decided to end an online relationship after the first date because her date had complained for much of the dinner. This got me thinking about complaining in general and how as people we are so drawn to doing so. Even when this woman came to me to discuss this bad date, she was doing so to…well…complain!
Because as people we complain so often, I don’t see the activity in itself as a [...]
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Posted on January 20th, 2010 by Brad
In my last post, I discussed ways to break your way into the conversation even if your date doesn’t ask you any questions. Today, I wanted to discuss this same issue but from the other side: remembering to share the conversation.
Sometimes people are simply too excited on a date and the result is that they talk about themselves the entire night. Another thing that happens with online dating is some people, particularly men, will research ways to keep the conversation [...]
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Posted on January 19th, 2010 by Brad
A reader recently wrote in with this frustration: on dates he is able to get conversations going easily but finds most of the women he meets, while willing to answer his questions, ask no questions of their own. They often appear very interested in the conversation but are willing to allow it remain about them. He questioned whether these women, who often seem swept off their feet, are actually interested at all. His dates would also say things like “Gee, [...]
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Posted on January 17th, 2010 by Brad
Is there any recovering from a bad first date? If you know you made a bad first impression or if the date went badly but you are hoping for a second chance, my honest opinion is that the odds aren’t in your favor. This is especially true if your first date was set up through an online dating service or was a blind date. This should obvious considering how important a first impression is and with online dating the first [...]
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Posted on January 15th, 2010 by Brad
On this blog I devote most of my attention to online dating but this isn’t the only method of meeting people. Just because you start dating online doesn’t mean you should forget about all the other options out there. Here’s a list of some ideas for meeting people when you’re not on your favorite dating site:
Meet-up Groups
I often recommend that people try Meetup.com as it has people of all types and ages meeting up for nearly limitless reasons. If you [...]
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Posted on January 14th, 2010 by Brad
One of the most important things to be concerned with on any first date is ensuring things start off the right way. Several studies have suggested that the first moments of interacting with someone are the most important. Most people who have been dating online for a substantial amount of time don’t need a study to tell us this: plenty of us have known within the first few minutes that a first date was going to be the last.
Making sure [...]
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Posted on January 13th, 2010 by Brad
Many people I speak with about dating have what I consider to be the standard outlook in regards to online dating: that it is a necessary evil. This approach is one that says online dating is something that must be done. A means to an end and nothing more. I started dating with this mentality and I think this approach is what adds so much frustration to the process.
This approach says that every date is either a failure or success. [...]
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