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I’ve talked about this before but in a relatively short period I’ve had several woman contact me with the same question: why do men want to talk to me using our personal email accounts and should I give my email to them?

What I tell my readers is this: I wouldn’t be too worried about moving to personal email accounts. Often the reason people ask this is because they’re embarrassed to log into dating service at locations other than their house [...]

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We’re about to head into what is considered the busiest time for online dating. It turns out that more than a people will be resolving to stop being single and the population of the online dating services is about to spike.

If you’re considering making such dating resolution this year and plan to use online dating as a part of that resolution, I’d like to encourage you to do the following:

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In my free online dating guide, I talk about using a service called tineye to identify fake dating profiles. In this article, I want to talk about using Google Images to do the same thing.

In many ways I’m writing this for men as I believe scams with beautiful women are aimed more at them (for obvious reasons). That said, this should be helpful to anyone as there are multiple reasons people put up fake photos, not just for scams.

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When I talk about what I think makes for a good first email, one thing I’ve argued in the past is that you shouldn’t be talking about yourself in one of these emails. As I’ve said, your profile is the place to talk about yourself, not your first email.

In this article I want to use an example to show why I think talking about yourself is a mistake. Also, I’ve been contacted by some men recently who complain that they [...]

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How should someone with a visible disability approach revealing this information when dating online? A few times in the past year I’ve been contacted by readers who have had this question.

I’ve always tried to handle answering this question carefully because I can’t fully appreciate the situation. I think I can empathize well but when it comes right down to it, I’ve never walked in their shoes. I’ve warned readers who have contacted me of my limited experience…but they still seem [...]

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Office romances are nearly always a bad idea. As the rather crude phrase puts it, ‘Never dip your nib in the office ink.’ It’s best to keep personal and professional lives as separate as possible, as they tend not to mix well. But with the influx of many celebrations over the next few months – Halloween, Bonfire Night and Christmas – there are many opportunities to get close to your colleagues. If you’ve got your eye on someone at work, [...]

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“I can’t believe it,” my friend, Mickey said to me when the commercial first aired.

“I’ve been telling you guys for over 5 years, you need to have an online dating profile,” I replied.

Everyone I know that’s late to the online dating game was shocked when Match.com’s commercial said 1 in 5 relationships begin online. However, just because some people were shocked, that doesn’t mean everyone was. In fact, there were a lot of people that thought “I’ve been [...]

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A reader recently wrote me with a very unique situation that was leading to multiple unsuccessful first dates.

In many cases, failed first dates can be a mystery: did she not like my personality? Was he not attracted to me? On the other hand, sometimes we know exactly why we are seeing failed dates…we just don’t know how to respond to them.

In this case, my reader knew exactly why he was struggling on the first dates but wasn’t sure how [...]

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Recently, a reader wrote to ask questions about re-contacting women at some point after the first email. He also talked a bit about my personal success compared to his and I wanted to address both of these areas in this article.

Here’s part of his email to me:

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Being new to online dating and growing comfortable with online dating both share one risk for people if they’re not careful: revealing far too much personal information far too early.

Early this month a reader contacted me with the following question:

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I was recently contacted by a reader asking that I review his first email style and when doing so I was reminded of what I talk about in my guide:

Sometimes the most important thing to do when dating online is to just come off as normal!

Perhaps more than anywhere else in life, normal can be exceptional with online dating. I say this because of the weirdness that can go on with online dating. Having a guy just write you a [...]

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First dates are a nerve-racking business. You’re about to spend several hours with someone you barely know. You’re uncomfortably aware that this will be your only shot at impressing them. You’re nervous. Your hands are probably shaking. And you’ve been so obsessed with the logistics of the evening – what to wear, getting there, turning up on time – that you haven’t even thought through what you’re actually going to talk about. There they are, they’re walking towards you, you [...]

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