Comments on: Is eHarmony Worth the Price?

By: Brad

Brad — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 13:24:36 +0000

Franklin – I’m going to have to disagree with you. My first 6 or 7 months of online dating was miserable like your experience with eHarmony has been but it turns out it was my approach to using the service that needed changed, not the dating service itself. I ended up going on lots and lots of dates from both eHarmony as well as some of its competitors. I commend you persistence if you’ve really managed to stick with it for 2 years but at the same time I’d encourage you to consider your approach when using eHarmony.

That said, I do agree everyone should also be using OKCupid or a site like it since you can’t beat free. OKCupid is my favorite of the free ones.

By: Franklin Marques

Franklin Marques — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 21:24:32 +0000

I just happened to stumble on this site when I was looking up eHar”money” costs and this article is completely untrue. eHa”money” is terrible. I have been a paying customer for 2 years and I never even have one date. Now before you ask, I am not some ugly, lying, nasty person, with no picture, a mostly blank profile, doesn’t contact or reply to matches, live in some remote area, has completely unrealistic requirements, etc. the service just is just terrible. I have been matched to 5600+ women and over 35% of them are closed, 54% are not good matches at all. That leaves the 11% I attempted communicated with.

Of that 11%, 90% have never replied or just disappeared during contact. The site is filled with people just trying it out, people who are not actually serious about online dating, or have really high standards and are expecting to find their soul mate. I have only had long term contact with 2 users and they both live on the other side of the planet. This site is a rip off.

eHar”money” only cares about cash, they don’t care about you.Their “matching” system is a joke. Avoid them. Use a free service like OkCupid, I at least got a few date on there.

By: Kira

Kira — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 18:25:02 +0000

I used Match.com and was only matched with people 5 years + younger than my preferred age range and 7 years + older than my preferred age range in six months of membership at Match.com I never went on a date and quickly became frustrated with the available matches. None of them seemed to fit my interests or beliefs … and no one wanted to meet in person, execpt for a 40 year old match that seemed nice but I am 29 now and was 27 at the time… for me 13 years is a little too far apart. Thought I was done with the online dating thing when I met my last boyfriend (not online) I moved in next to him… but now 1 year and 4 months later… I am single again and considering EHarmony because my brother used that site and went out on a few promising dates. He eventually met his fiance through friends but his experience with EHarmony was way better than mine w/ Match.com.

By: Ellen

Ellen — Fri, 22 Jul 2011 18:48:02 +0000

Eharmony is not worth the price. I signed up and got lots of matches but their personalities and interests were not a good match for me at all. Also, I got a lot of matches that had not been active in over a month or more. I also wanted to have a lower distance setting than 30 miles. I was getting matched with people living in another state. I live in a major metropolitan area. I am not traveling to another state or commuting long distances for a date.
I also found the guided questions to be over personal. I am not going to discuss previous relationships or describe my parents marriage with someone I have never met and am only just getting to know.
I found the whole thing over all to be very frustrating and wish that I had tried other sites first like Match.com and Okcupid before I commited several months to eharmony. I have had much better responses through those sites and would recommend that someone start there first.

By: Brad

Brad — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 22:01:32 +0000

Hey Jim,

Based on your story, obviously eHarmony wouldn’t be worth it. That being said, if it worked like that most of the time no one would use it at all.

I’ve actually never heard of a case like this. I’ve heard of people complaining they didn’t have enough matches (and have even written about it here) but 2 matches in 6 months with a wide search radius? That sounds extremely strange. Did you have your two matches when you subscribed? My advice to anyone would be if you only have 2 matches and they are both 150+ miles away, don’t subscribe (and especially not for 6 months).

To me, this sounds like something was very broken. For example, if you had your profile set to receive matches but their system wasn’t recognizing it or something like that. Did you contact their customer support? I would think you still might be able to now: if they can see in their records that you went 5+ months with no matches I would *hope* they would be willing to at least give you some free time.

By: Jim

Jim — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 15:42:28 +0000

I could not disagree more about the e-Harmony experience. Having grown weary of the bar-frequenters, I tried this in order to pre-screen potential dates. I’m a good looking 30 yo professional who’s in shape and never had a problem picking up dates in said bar scene. Despite middle-of-the-road political leanings and a non-fanatical commitment to religious faith, I received all of two match listings in 6 months. I have no kids. I live in a major metropolitan center. One potential match was 600 miles away. The other was 150.

The week prior to the cancellation of my 6-month subscription, I began receiving more matches than I could deal with. They were lovely and we seemed to have much in common. However, in talking with other guys and gals who have used it previously, it seems as though the consensus was that eHarmony scrimps on matches and has no problem letting you starve for 5 and 1/2 months prior to unleashing the floodgates. Were these people not ideal matches in the preceding 5 months?

I am turned off by the site and think it is quite shady in terms of the matching algorithms.