Comments on: My Date Doesn’t Ask Me Any Questions http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2010/01/19/my-date-doesnt-ask-me-any-questions/ Getting on Track with Online Dating Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:11:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Brad http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2010/01/19/my-date-doesnt-ask-me-any-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-20611 Brad Wed, 06 Apr 2011 23:02:48 +0000 http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/?p=1467#comment-20611 Thanks for your thoughts Jimmy. I'll stick by my original thoughts, especially considering he mentioned that this was happening repeatedly with different women, but I can appreciate where you're coming from. I would say that if you frequently find yourself sitting "outside" the conversation on your first dates, it may be best to consider some of the advice above. It is not only the person talking who creates the environment. A totally silent person can be just as bad as one that never shuts up! That being said, for those one-off cases where you meet a guy or a girl that is self-obsessed (lacking a reflective disposition as you diplomatically put it), I would agree. Moving on to find someone that better fits your personality is a fine idea. On a personal note, I once had a date where she was obviously excited and asked me very little about myself. On our second date, things went much better. Did I end up marrying her? Nope. But I was glad I gave her another chance because on the second date I got to see who she really was (not who she was when she was horribly nervous). Thanks for your thoughts Jimmy. I’ll stick by my original thoughts, especially considering he mentioned that this was happening repeatedly with different women, but I can appreciate where you’re coming from. I would say that if you frequently find yourself sitting “outside” the conversation on your first dates, it may be best to consider some of the advice above. It is not only the person talking who creates the environment. A totally silent person can be just as bad as one that never shuts up!

That being said, for those one-off cases where you meet a guy or a girl that is self-obsessed (lacking a reflective disposition as you diplomatically put it), I would agree. Moving on to find someone that better fits your personality is a fine idea.

On a personal note, I once had a date where she was obviously excited and asked me very little about myself. On our second date, things went much better. Did I end up marrying her? Nope. But I was glad I gave her another chance because on the second date I got to see who she really was (not who she was when she was horribly nervous).

]]> By: Jimmy http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2010/01/19/my-date-doesnt-ask-me-any-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-19510 Jimmy Tue, 15 Feb 2011 13:52:52 +0000 http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/?p=1467#comment-19510 I have to disagree with the author. I think a date, or any other person, that continues to talk non-stop ia someone who is self-absorbed. Regretfully, that is very common in men and women who don't have a reflective type of disposition -- or have failed to stop and take the time to listen to someone else. Unless this guy is very patient, I'd advise this person to hold out till he finds someone who better suits his own personality. I have to disagree with the author. I think a date, or any other person, that continues to talk non-stop ia someone who is self-absorbed. Regretfully, that is very common in men and women who don’t have a reflective type of disposition — or have failed to stop and take the time to listen to someone else. Unless this guy is very patient, I’d advise this person to hold out till he finds someone who better suits his own personality.

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