Comments on: eHarmony Is Giving Me No Matches http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2009/12/28/eharmony-is-giving-me-no-matches/ Getting on Track with Online Dating Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:11:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: kristin http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2009/12/28/eharmony-is-giving-me-no-matches/comment-page-1/#comment-26919 kristin Mon, 05 Dec 2011 22:14:33 +0000 http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/?p=1277#comment-26919 I did not like match, as I did it last year and one of the matches were suitable. Even though people were paid members, they still used that site and a phone sex site, meaning they would contact me to talk on the phone and would ask me to have phone sex, and did not ask me to meet them. I am looking for a serious relationship. Eharmony was better in finding more serious matches, but I got hardly any matches who would respond to my questions or complete the process or answer my emails. Some people would open up my mail and agree to open communication but would not respond to my email and I do not get what the point of that is, perhaps just to read the email. I used my best pictures, and had people, even men look at them and they agreed they were good. I answered my questions straight to the point and outlined my interests. Only a few matches a week are in my area and that is upsetting and frustrating. Last year I did eharmony the same time as match and almost met somebody, but he stood me up, so I settled on a man I met on a free dating site, and he turned out to be a jerk. This year, after my friends ran out of men to introduce me too, which was my first choice in meeting me, I joined eharmony again. So far I only met one man who turned out to be a mean jerk. I talked to a few people on there, but most of them do not complete the question process and many people view my profile but do not answer my questions and these are not the most attractive men nor do they have such impressive profile. What are they looking for and what do they think they are going to find? Is it just that the dating market of men has gone down hill? Have men today been made to believe by their family some how that they are such prize packages that they are too good for ordinarly people like me? Mot to sound negative either, because I do like eharmony in some ways, but I am just so frustrating with the dating process and so frustrating with not getting a date for weeks or even so much as an email. I did not like match, as I did it last year and one of the matches were suitable. Even though people were paid members, they still used that site and a phone sex site, meaning they would contact me to talk on the phone and would ask me to have phone sex, and did not ask me to meet them. I am looking for a serious relationship. Eharmony was better in finding more serious matches, but I got hardly any matches who would respond to my questions or complete the process or answer my emails. Some people would open up my mail and agree to open communication but would not respond to my email and I do not get what the point of that is, perhaps just to read the email. I used my best pictures, and had people, even men look at them and they agreed they were good. I answered my questions straight to the point and outlined my interests. Only a few matches a week are in my area and that is upsetting and frustrating. Last year I did eharmony the same time as match and almost met somebody, but he stood me up, so I settled on a man I met on a free dating site, and he turned out to be a jerk. This year, after my friends ran out of men to introduce me too, which was my first choice in meeting me, I joined eharmony again. So far I only met one man who turned out to be a mean jerk. I talked to a few people on there, but most of them do not complete the question process and many people view my profile but do not answer my questions and these are not the most attractive men nor do they have such impressive profile. What are they looking for and what do they think they are going to find? Is it just that the dating market of men has gone down hill? Have men today been made to believe by their family some how that they are such prize packages that they are too good for ordinarly people like me? Mot to sound negative either, because I do like eharmony in some ways, but I am just so frustrating with the dating process and so frustrating with not getting a date for weeks or even so much as an email.

]]> By: Brad http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2009/12/28/eharmony-is-giving-me-no-matches/comment-page-1/#comment-14468 Brad Mon, 11 Jan 2010 00:23:30 +0000 http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/?p=1277#comment-14468 Yeah, the free weekends are a really long-shot at finding success. Occasionally eHarmony will have 5-days free but in either case it doesn't take much to realize their goal is to hope you start a conversation during the free weekend and then end up subscribing once the free weekend runs out. Still, since the gamble is free I recommend those dating online to give it a try (if only to see what the service is all about).<br><br>If eHarmony is preventing those taking advantage of the free weekend from viewing photos, though, that's not cool. If it's a free weekend, it should be a free weekend!<br><br>As far as reading about other women with free weekend experiences, I've not seen many people discussing free weekends (out side of advertising that they're occurring). You might try checking eHarmony's forum at <a href="http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/" rel="nofollow">http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/</a>. While eHarmony technically owns this forum I've found many of the conversations there are pretty candid. You might check the Using eHarmony section to see if anyone has similar problems with the free weekends. Yeah, the free weekends are a really long-shot at finding success. Occasionally eHarmony will have 5-days free but in either case it doesn't take much to realize their goal is to hope you start a conversation during the free weekend and then end up subscribing once the free weekend runs out. Still, since the gamble is free I recommend those dating online to give it a try (if only to see what the service is all about).

If eHarmony is preventing those taking advantage of the free weekend from viewing photos, though, that's not cool. If it's a free weekend, it should be a free weekend!

As far as reading about other women with free weekend experiences, I've not seen many people discussing free weekends (out side of advertising that they're occurring). You might try checking eHarmony's forum at http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/. While eHarmony technically owns this forum I've found many of the conversations there are pretty candid. You might check the Using eHarmony section to see if anyone has similar problems with the free weekends.

]]> By: guest in New England http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2009/12/28/eharmony-is-giving-me-no-matches/comment-page-1/#comment-14467 guest in New England Sun, 10 Jan 2010 22:02:08 +0000 http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/?p=1277#comment-14467 Hi there! I enjoy looking over your site from time to time. Based on info here, I took advantage of eHarmony's free weekend/weeks the last two times. While it is really hard to fully evaluate my matches because they will not let me see photos of them, all I got were a very large number of incredibly THIN matches, big age differences, big differences in pursuits and occupations, etc. I was very surprised at how little these men wrote in their profiles and of course had almost no way to evaluate their attractiveness. They assured me they could see my photos. <br><br>I'd also like to point out that I had been rejected from eHarmony less than a year ago. I made no big changes in my answers, just took the 'test' again, and 'got in'. No phone call to them was needed. Do they need women age 55? perhaps. I believe I was probably rejected originally because I express needs for independence and value excitement, conversation, creativity and spontaneity...I already KNOW lots of men my age (those who are not able to date younger) want LESS of all that, which is why I am on line dating in the first place!<br><br>I'd like to read about others' experiences, especially women my age, with the eHarmony free weekends. Is there a place I might look for this? Hi there! I enjoy looking over your site from time to time. Based on info here, I took advantage of eHarmony's free weekend/weeks the last two times. While it is really hard to fully evaluate my matches because they will not let me see photos of them, all I got were a very large number of incredibly THIN matches, big age differences, big differences in pursuits and occupations, etc. I was very surprised at how little these men wrote in their profiles and of course had almost no way to evaluate their attractiveness. They assured me they could see my photos.

I'd also like to point out that I had been rejected from eHarmony less than a year ago. I made no big changes in my answers, just took the 'test' again, and 'got in'. No phone call to them was needed. Do they need women age 55? perhaps. I believe I was probably rejected originally because I express needs for independence and value excitement, conversation, creativity and spontaneity…I already KNOW lots of men my age (those who are not able to date younger) want LESS of all that, which is why I am on line dating in the first place!

I'd like to read about others' experiences, especially women my age, with the eHarmony free weekends. Is there a place I might look for this?

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