Online Dating Guide & Blog

In a recent article, I discussed how to dress for a first date. However, even when you know what to wear in general, there are times where it’s not clear if a particular outfit is worth wearing. We often second guess our opinion on the outfit and either decided not to wear or we wear it but worry all night long. In both cases, we can end up regretting our decision.

I’ve seen it recommended to upload a photo of yourself [...]

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Another year is about to begin and it’s time for people to begin making New Year’s resolutions. There are plenty of popular choices like losing weight, quitting smoking, or even trying to read more books. I would like to recommend to singles out there to see finding that special someone as your resolution this year.

Many people don’t see dating as something they would need a resolution to do. I think this is often a mistake. As veterans of online dating [...]

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Another funny parody site along the same lines as PoorMatch.com, here’s

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eHarmony is very committed to their matching system. The site takes the approach that it would be better to give its members no matches than to give them bad matches. eHarmony will even reject applicants that they feel they can’t provide adequate matches to. In some ways, it’s good to see eHarmony being so honest but it does cause problems. If you’re not getting any matches, a number of things could be happening.

When I used eHarmony, I was living in [...]

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With some extra time over the holiday, I was looking for a new game to play and decided to look into Torchlight. My first impression when researching the game and looking at the screenshots was that it appeared to be a more cartoonish Diablo. Having now played for a few hours, I can say that this impression is correct.

As with my experience with the Diablo series, Torchlight offers a lot of fun with single player dungeon crawling. The first few [...]

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Some people think about dating online but put it off because they want to improve something about themselves before they start. I don’t have any statistics but I think it’s safe to assume the number one reason for this is to attempt to lose weight. Do I believe this is a good idea? Should a person lose weight before subjecting themselves to online dating?

In my opinion, the answer is no (with one small exception). Why is waiting a mistake?

First, going [...]

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What do you do if you create an online dating profile and someone you know ends up asking you out? This can be an awkward situation, especially if you’re not interested. For example, if you work together, you’ll likely want to avoid making life awkward for yourself with outright rejection or by ignoring them. How do let them down easily without creating a difficult situation?

The easiest way out would be to claim that you’re afraid that the dating someone [...]

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A Wired article discusses a New York Times article that discusses one professor’s call to ban the words geek and nerd. From the article at NYT:

But David Anderegg, a professor of psychology at Bennington College, says that merely mentioning terms like nerd or geek serves to perpetuate the stereotype. The words are damaging, much like racial epithets, he says, and should be avoided.

This blows my mind because, as both a geek and a nerd, I have to say that these [...]

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Today the fasting growing group among web daters is the 50-plus crowd. I can attest that in the last year I’ve seen a big spike in dating questions from this group (actually, I can’t remember any contact from this demographic prior to 2009). As this article points out, eHarmony, Match.com and Lavalife have all seen significant growth in the 50-plus crowd in the last few years.

I’m not surprised by this as online dating is opening doors previously not available. [...]

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6 Technology Steps to Take During A Post-Breakup
Due to social media changes, breaking up today is even more difficult than it once was. Our lives can become so intertwined with those we date that when things are broken off only half of the breakup is truly complete. This YourTango article discusses some steps (arguably obvious in some cases) for cleansing your online ties in addition to your emotional.

Bad First Date, Funny Article
The author of this article describes getting the “stare [...]

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I’m always looking for new, interesting, well-written dating articles to share with my readers. I’ll let you in on a little secret: the internet is full of crap. For every good article I find, there’s a dozen other sites that offer absolutely nothing. Almost all of these sites are intentionally bad in the sense that the goal is not to assist readers in any way. Apparently the authors of much of this drivel are very good at marketing their sites [...]

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Lavalife is having another free email weekend starting Saturday December 19th at 12:01am and running until December 20th at 11:59pm. This free weekend is a little shorter than their previous weekends and, as has been the case before, they seem to alert people that this is happening at the last minute (I found out after the free weekend had already started).

For those unaware, the Lavalife free email weekend basically makes the entire site free (as far as communicating with other [...]

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I see this question come up from time to time. The first question I always find myself asking is: Why? Why would you want to contact someone who had nothing interesting in her profile? I already know the answer as it’s not too hard to figure out: she’s attractive. Even though I wonder at contacting someone who you don’t find interesting, I will still try to answer this to the best of my ability.

First is her profile missing details or [...]

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If you’re new to online dating or still considering signing up, figuring out where to start or what service to use can be difficult. Here I’ll provide 5 tips to get your online dating life moving.

1. Sign Up At A Free Dating Site
First and most important: sign up for a free dating service. I recommend OKCupid although Plenty of Fish is the most popular. I can’t recommend Plenty of Fish because I believe the service fails to provide singles with [...]

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According to the Telegraph, scientists have declared that men should marry women who are younger and smarter than themselves. The article is a little short on the details but I did find another article stating that men who marry younger women live longer.

While I find articles like this interesting, it always seems like a new group of scientists is coming out with a new metric that will determine the success of a relationship. Finding someone you click with is often [...]

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You’ll see people complain about how bad their online dates have been. One great site for stories regarding this is Internet Dating Stories (I love the tag line: “The good, the bad, and the OH MY GOD, what were they thinking?!”). Obviously after browsing this site you’ll see there are plenty of bad dates out there originating from the internet. I’ve heard men and women describe bad dates and attribute the entirety of those bad dates to online dating itself. [...]

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I recently read a great article that describes some situations that may seem bad on a first date but could actually be a sign that things are going quite well. The article, 6 Bad First Date Signs That Are Actually Good, is worth reading because sometimes we convince ourselves that things have going horribly when they’re actually going fine. As an example, how many of us have gone on a job interview and thought we did a bad job only [...]

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Don’t do this! I was talking about online dating experiences the other day and woman was describing her most recent date. She was explaining why she had no intention of having another date with the man she had met the night before. There were several issues she had taken with the date itself but as we talked I get the feeling this man had ruined his chances in the first few moments of the date. Simply said, he was dressed [...]

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Do You Have A Dating Addiction?
Steve at SeaCoastOnline.com discusses addictions in general and specifically the idea of having a dating addiction. If you date online long enough you will probably run into someone who seems to have a little too many dating stories. You might find yourself wondering, “Exactly how long has this person been dating online?”. My opinion is that dating addictions exist and that online dating can actually encourage this activity. If I’m honest, when I met Kate [...]

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I’ve been bothered lately by Plenty of Fish. I don’t mind that the site has been successful but I do hate when I talk to someone and they say, “Yeah, I tried online dating at Plenty of Fish. I guess internet dating just isn’t for me. The problems were [insert a list of issues here]“. Here’s the thing: in my opinion Plenty of Fish is a far better example of successful internet marketing than it is of online dating. If [...]

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