Comments on: Online Dating Scams: The Romance Scam

By: Mary

Mary — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:09:02 +0000

This is crazy, my sister just called me that this guy Coby, who she has been internet ‘dating’ for about a month, same time as Yvonne, just asked her for money. He had the same Malaysia story. She did a little looking into him, thankfully and has not sent him any money. This is from a J-date website. I guess he is multi-faithed?!
Isn’t there anyway to find these people?! It is so cruel and to mess with peoples heads and hearts.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 14:07:01 +0000

I have searched and searched for this guy on many scammers web sites. You are the first to post him that I know of. I did give the guy some money, but not much…I was suspicious and should have relied on my instincts…but I didn’t. The only difference in our stories is you were wiser than me. He told me the same exact story except he was 48, he lived in Daytona Beach, he was working at the Gardens in Maylasia…and he is very articulate. I’ve seen a lot of them on web sites and have spotted them from day one. I admit this one really is a lot more articulate than most. Thanks for writing, you saved me much heartache and money.

By: Peter

Peter — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 17:55:30 +0000

Hi Yvonne,

you helped me very much! You can´t imagine how. I was right now in contact with Cody Hadewych (on Gaydar under nick “shydutchgay”), Dutch designer from UK, leaving today to KL to design new hotel:) You saved my time and probably also money…

THANK YOU VERY MUCH! YOU ARE BRAVE!

Peter

By: Yvonne McLaren

Yvonne McLaren — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 06:56:03 +0000

I recently was approached by a guy calling himself Coby Hadewych, it was a scam, he said he was a dutch born interior designer, living in Mission Bay Auckland and working in Newmarket, 41 and good looking.
He was then suddenly in Kuala Lumpor on “business” doing the interior of a hotel for the Marriot group.

I met him on OK Cupid. Fortunately they had put a notice at the end of the email on my page warning that if anyone asked for money it was never a good idea to do it, that seemed just sensible.

But when this guy worked his scam it was extremely credible, he named a local church which was one that had a website (funny that) and spoke about his faith as a Christian.

But as time went on and his contract wasn’t going well etc it started to appear that he was going to be stuck in KL for Christmas and New Year if he couldn’t get $6k to sort it out. Fortunately the business I run means I investigate ciients and I am rather good at it.

Plus I spoke with friends who had done the sorts of contracts he was talking about in Malaysia, and it all started to sound less and less credible. But he was extremely clever, articulate on the phone, acurate with info about New Zealand (which US people reading this would be surprised about).

I was never going to give him money and when he realised this after asking me a second time a few weeks late, I “didn’t love him” never mentioned that in any context, and must have thought he was “sceming me” (mispelling was his in the email).

Watch the Australian 60 mins article called “the Love Scam” and then google datescam and you you will see more about it there.

Fortunately one of my friends had seen that when I sent her the very professional photos he had sent me and all her alarm bells went off and she sent me the link.

I then contacted, his supposed church – never heard of him and also flagged it to OK Cupid and Facebook and all sites came down immediately.

Be aware, it has not put me off internet dating but my mistake was continuing with calls and chat without waiting until I could meet face to face.

If it looks too good to be true it usually is and as Date Scam says on there site and OK Cupid, if they EVER ask for money it is ALWAYS a scam…

So grateful I just pushed hard for the truth & found out they never really existed.