Comments on: Should a Woman Initiate the Emails in Online Dating? http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2009/09/29/should-a-woman-initiate-the-emails-in-online-dating/ Getting on Track with Online Dating Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:11:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Arielle http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2009/09/29/should-a-woman-initiate-the-emails-in-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-20036 Arielle Mon, 07 Mar 2011 02:48:17 +0000 http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/?p=449#comment-20036 What an interesting topic! As a woman who initiates emails in online dating, I was wondering how many other women out there prefer to take the lead and fire off that first email to potential guys of interest. Personally, I like the idea of initiating emails because it opens the door to more possibilities of connecting with someone who may otherwise not have discovered me. Of course I've had my share of hits and misses. The "misses" being the disappointing non-responses or ego-crushing direct rejections, and the "hits" being the positive connections, i.e., a favorable response leading to continued correspondence. As for rejections, I just think of them as a necessary evil. The more rejections you get, the less impact they have over time. And believe me, the ego-boost of getting *one* positive response more than makes up for a dozen non-responses/rejections! As for the positive connections, in most cases I got the impression that the guy was pleasantly surprised to get an email from a woman. One guy even remarked in his reply, “I was flattered to get your email!” So I certainly support the idea of a woman making the first move. A wink is fine, but I think an email works even better because you can personalize it with specifics to really get the guy’s attention and demonstrate sincere interest. What an interesting topic! As a woman who initiates emails in online dating, I was wondering how many other women out there prefer to take the lead and fire off that first email to potential guys of interest. Personally, I like the idea of initiating emails because it opens the door to more possibilities of connecting with someone who may otherwise not have discovered me.

Of course I’ve had my share of hits and misses. The “misses” being the disappointing non-responses or ego-crushing direct rejections, and the “hits” being the positive connections, i.e., a favorable response leading to continued correspondence. As for rejections, I just think of them as a necessary evil. The more rejections you get, the less impact they have over time. And believe me, the ego-boost of getting *one* positive response more than makes up for a dozen non-responses/rejections!

As for the positive connections, in most cases I got the impression that the guy was pleasantly surprised to get an email from a woman. One guy even remarked in his reply, “I was flattered to get your email!” So I certainly support the idea of a woman making the first move. A wink is fine, but I think an email works even better because you can personalize it with specifics to really get the guy’s attention and demonstrate sincere interest.

]]> By: milly http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2009/09/29/should-a-woman-initiate-the-emails-in-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-19031 milly Sun, 23 Jan 2011 12:55:34 +0000 http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/?p=449#comment-19031 It amazes me how many people join these dating sites but dont make any effort. I hear guys complaining that they never get any interest but it turns out they never initiate contact,they are waiting for the woman to get in touch! sorry men but that is your job initially ,these days men seem to forget that is their role.There is nothing more off putting than a man who is waiting to be pursued. Guys,if you are interested in a woman,be a man and send her a message,all women like a man who is capable of being forthright and decisive. It amazes me how many people join these dating sites but dont make any effort.
I hear guys complaining that they never get any interest but it turns out they never initiate contact,they are waiting for the woman to get in touch! sorry men but that is your job initially ,these days men seem to forget that is their role.There is nothing more off putting than a man who is waiting to be pursued.
Guys,if you are interested in a woman,be a man and send her a message,all women like a man who is capable of being forthright and decisive.

]]> By: Brad http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2009/09/29/should-a-woman-initiate-the-emails-in-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-14475 Brad Sun, 14 Mar 2010 07:19:59 +0000 http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/?p=449#comment-14475 Yeah, I agree with your thoughts. I think my normal response was, "well this is a nice change of pace!" Yeah, I agree with your thoughts. I think my normal response was, “well this is a nice change of pace!”

]]> By: Emilio http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2009/09/29/should-a-woman-initiate-the-emails-in-online-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-14420 Emilio Sat, 13 Mar 2010 18:19:43 +0000 http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/?p=449#comment-14420 Outside of the online dating world men have to take the first step about 99% of the time. That means we get rejected A LOT! Speaking only for myself, I am usually thrilled when a woman contacts me, just because it relieves the burden, if only for a moment, of putting myself out there only to get shot down yet again. Outside of the online dating world men have to take the first step about 99% of the time. That means we get rejected A LOT! Speaking only for myself, I am usually thrilled when a woman contacts me, just because it relieves the burden, if only for a moment, of putting myself out there only to get shot down yet again.

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