Comments on: When Dates Go Bad: The Self-Righteous Dater http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2007/12/29/when-dates-go-bad-the-self-righteous-dater/ Getting on Track with Online Dating Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:11:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Brad http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2007/12/29/when-dates-go-bad-the-self-righteous-dater/comment-page-1/#comment-25863 Brad Sat, 22 Oct 2011 10:39:31 +0000 http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2007/12/29/when-dates-go-bad-the-self-righteous-dater/#comment-25863 Melani - I tried to be pretty open about second dates. A second date can often help the other person get over their nerves and to a better job of showing their true self. That said, I didn't go on second dates for two main reasons: 1. If I thought they really liked me but I knew I wasn't likely to return those feelings, I wouldn't go on a second date because I didn't want to lead them on. 2. If I found them disagreeable on some core level and I knew I would never be able to get over that item (because then a second date was just a waste of time). At the end of the day, I think it's best if you make the call on whether or not he's worth a second date based on rules that are important to you. That being said, I think most people I talk to aren't open enough about giving people a second chance. Melani – I tried to be pretty open about second dates. A second date can often help the other person get over their nerves and to a better job of showing their true self. That said, I didn’t go on second dates for two main reasons:

1. If I thought they really liked me but I knew I wasn’t likely to return those feelings, I wouldn’t go on a second date because I didn’t want to lead them on.

2. If I found them disagreeable on some core level and I knew I would never be able to get over that item (because then a second date was just a waste of time).

At the end of the day, I think it’s best if you make the call on whether or not he’s worth a second date based on rules that are important to you. That being said, I think most people I talk to aren’t open enough about giving people a second chance.

]]> By: Melani http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2007/12/29/when-dates-go-bad-the-self-righteous-dater/comment-page-1/#comment-25834 Melani Thu, 20 Oct 2011 23:50:56 +0000 http://www.littleredrails.com/blog/2007/12/29/when-dates-go-bad-the-self-righteous-dater/#comment-25834 I have a question because Ive experienced this with a specific person. Immediately it felt difficult to get along...but I dont think he neccesarily was working against me...it was more like we didnt have much to say, plus there were a lot of awkwardness. This person was also using profanity on and off, which turned me off. I remember thinking "wow" I would never say that, but I pretended not to hear. Does this person deserve a second date? I have a question because Ive experienced this with a specific person. Immediately it felt difficult to get along…but I dont think he neccesarily was working against me…it was more like we didnt have much to say, plus there were a lot of awkwardness. This person was also using profanity on and off, which turned me off. I remember thinking “wow” I would never say that, but I pretended not to hear. Does this person deserve a second date?

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